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Hi ladies,



I am new to BE after getting married a few months ago and deciding to TTC. I just wanted to say hello and introduce myself. i've been reading your posts on BE this morning which have really helped me and i just wanted to say thank you and i'm very sorry to hear that so many of you have had been through such bad experiences, sending positive thoughts to all of you for 2011.



We have just had one of the worst Christmas's after such joy at finding out in the middle of December that we were expecting our first baby to then having what was thought to be a miscarriage over Christmas and being in and out of hospital every two days to check HCG levels, but they kept rising (very slowly) until it was discovered that i had an ectopic, i have had the methotrexate and am now bleeding again, i've been very emotional for the last three weeks worrying about miscarriage, ectopic, potential problems for the future, have to go back Tuesday to see if the Metho has worked so hopefully can start to get over this. i'm sorry so many of you have had to go through this too. We have to wait three months until we try again due to the medication but hope to have a BFP later in 2011.



Thank you for listening and best of luck to you all.



x x x

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  • I'm really sorry you've had to go throught this Kelstar.



    I too had an ectopic, i had to have the operation and had my left tube removed as well, that was in december.



    Hubby and I are really trying to stay positive, we got pregnant before so finger crossed it will happen again, and be in the right place time time.



    Lots of luck for 2011



    xxx
  • Didnt want to read an run......so sorry for what you are having to go through =( i hope 2011 is a better year for you!



    love hayley x
  • I'm so sorry you're having to go through this - I know from personal experience that it's a dreadful thing to have to face.



    Give yourself time to grieve - it's a rollercoaster of emptions for a while, but you will get there, I assure you.



    I hope 2011 treats you better, and I look forward to hearing good news from you in the future.



    xxxTracyxxx
  • Hi Kelstar, I'm so sorry to hear you're in this position.



    I too had an ectopic pregnancy 2 months after I got married. I was told it was a mc but I had slow rising hcg and was in fact ectopic (next to my ovary).



    I was treated with methotrexate too. I had to have 2nd dose which brought it down right away.



    I remember how I felt like it wasyesterday. Emotional roller coaster doesn't seem to even come close. I would say that the methotrexate tends to make you feel a whole lot worse. I was very teary and also it made me exhausted.



    I would really suggest you take each day at a time, it's teh only way i got through it. Also, the forums on th eectopic pregnancy were amazing. They are moderated by specialist nurses.



    Big hugs xx
  • Hi Ladies,



    Thank you ever so much for replying and for your support i really appreciate it.



    Gem999 - im really sorry to hear what you have been through and wish you all the best for 2011 i can't imagine what you went through in December, sending you big hugs and positive thoughts for 2011 and thank you for replying.



    MrsMafiaPrincess, thank you for replying, i had the first dose of metho 5 days ago, i phoned up the hospital today for my 4 days after test results and the levels are still rising so i am hopeful that the 7th day tests will start to show a fall in hcg levels. i'm glad that the second dose worked for you. Taking it day by day is good advice, i didnt realise how exhausted the injection would make me feel, i went out for a drive with my husband today - i felt great when we set off and 15mins later had to turn back as i was too sick and tired. I keep wanting to get back to some normality but i know my body is telling me i am not ready.



    Thanks again everyone and wishing you all the very best.



    xx
  • Nobody tells you how the methotrexate makes you feel. I have low blood pressure anyway but it made it even lower and I was so faint and felt a lot of tugging. I had 3 weeks off if work as I was so tired. It did last for 6 weeks but it did go.



    I think with ectopics you feel like you live at the hospital. I was on first name terms with them all. Because of this I found the emotional side look a little longer to catch up with me. I went from devestation to serious anger and everything inbetween. I learnt to go with my emotions and didn't put on a brave front as that made me worse.



    My hcg was slow rising after the first jab but when I had the second it was back to 0 in 2 weeks and I was told the 2nd dose always does it if the first doesn't.



    Hugs xx
  • we have had the same problems too in 2010. Two Ectopics one in right and one in the left.



    The first time I went into hospital with pains and lost naturally 2nd time I had to have the Methtrexate.So I fully understand what you have been though. Plus my brother just announced in October that his wife was pregnant with twins and they are due in May.



    He has always said that he never wanted kids and was going to have the snip, he's 43 and his wife is 46



    Good luck to all us trying again in 2011 x
  • Thanks again ladies,



    it's been a week since the methotrexate and the hospital called me this morning at work to go straight in for another scan as the levels hadn't fallen as much as they would have liked, they have just gone back to what they were before the methotrexate, more bloods tomorrow and find out if i need another dose or surgery....i think its the waiting game that is so difficult, it's very hard to move on with everything up in the air and the worry of potential surgery.



    MrsMafiaPrincess, i completely relate to what you are saying about living in the hospital, i just counted 13 visits in 22 days, i certainly know them all well at this stage. I saw some of your other posts in another forum, i hope all is going well for you.



    Devilsice1 - im really sorry to hear you had two ectopics in 2010, i am sure you are delighted for your brother but at the same time it is very hard to be happy for other people when you are having such a hard time of it. I hope you are ok.



    x x x
  • I'm sorry to hear about your ectopic. I had my right tube removed in September 2008 and I know have devastating it is for you



    Big hugs to you xxx
  • I was exactly where you were. My levels weren't dropping and I was so frightened of surgery. I ended up having a second dose of methotrexate as that did the trick. My level were down to 5 in 2 weeks. The nurse told me the 2nd dose was always more effective than the first.



    I lost count of the blood tests I had. I just know I didn't care what they did to me in the end.



    How are you feeling from the methotrexate. I wasn't told to expect anything but I was so exhausted all the time and it took about 6 weeks to get back on track.



    It will get better I promise x x x
  • Thanks everyone, i really appreciate you taking time to reply and let me know i am not alone in this, i am sorry you all went through it and am glad to see people go on and have successful pregnancies after.



    MrsMafiaPrincess - Yes i checked with the docs when i had the injection and they said i wouldn't really feel anything either and could carry on as normal so off i went to work the next day to take my mind off it but i could hardly stand i was so tired. i kept going into work like a wally even though i was totally exhausted, seems to have subsided now after a week, although i have been in bed all afternoon after the shock of being called in for an emergency scan this morning. image I'm feeling positive that it will be ok tomorrow and if not that they will give me another dose and hopefully that will work. Im sorry you went through it but im so glad to know that it happens and people have success after. Looking forward to going back to that hospital in good times in future when i am over this....on the up side booked a holiday today in a few months to look forward to after all this nightmare is over image



    Thanks again xx
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