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Another baby, make pain go away?
I have just had a miscarriage and all my body wants to do is have another baby asap. I know I need time to grieve (as if I could avoid it!). The pain of this will always stay with me but does the pain make sense once you have another? Does it somehow make the miscarriage make sense? Does it take any of the pain away? I SO wanted another baby :?
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Have you thought about getting a little trinket as a keep sake for your lost LO? I bought a Willow Tree ornament called Remember after my 2nd MC I found that quite helpful. I know other people who have bought jewellery.
PLease give yourself a break whilst the feelings are still so raw - after the 1st MC we kept right on trying and fell 2 cycles later but I don't think I was entirely ready for it. Then after the 2nd we gave ourselves a break of a cycl - it's not a hugs amount of time and it gave me time to feel a bit more me again.
Same as with the other ladies above, if I hadn't have had a miscarriage I would not have my DS1 (my ex dumped me when I was pregnant so would have dumped me sooner if I hadn't have MC'd and I would not change my DS1 for the world) and I may not have met my gorgeous and amazing fiance and have my DS2. I'm sad about the MC but things have worked out brilliantly and I like to think that is for a reason, rather than thinking about what was not meant to be.
Only you know when you are mentally and physically ready to try for another baby and I wish you all the best with everything xx
I fell PG the 2nd cycle after having my operation and although scared, actually felt really positive about it, a bit like instinct I suppose
Sometimes I felt guilty, as if I had replaced my first baby, but when I thought about it more I realised that wasn't it at all. Being PG again was an incredible comfort to me. In actual fact she is still such a comfort; when she was 3 months old my nan died and I know I got through it so much easier because of her)
I just had an MC last week, and I intend to do the same again
Best of luck x