12wk scan this morn - no heartbeat. what do i do?
Hi all
We have 4 children, partner had snip bk in june and baby was a miracle bombshell, i had just got my head round it and we had just found a new house as would have to move. We decided abortion wasnt for us.
We had 12 week scan this morning and she said she had to do an internal scan, straight away i said why u should be able to see the baby at this stage, she then said it was because she was having trouble getting the heartbeat.
I went to toilet, came bk, got undressed and she and another lady looked again, after 10 mins she said there was no heartbeat. I had to sit in a room and was given 3 options. Wait for it to happen, medication to start it or operation.
I have had a early miscarriage at 5 wks before but didnt have to do anything, and a molar pregnancy at 8wks where i had to have the op for biopsy.
I have come home as i didnt want to decide, they kept asking which one and i just wanted to be going home with a scan pic of my moving baby,
What do i do, please help x
We have 4 children, partner had snip bk in june and baby was a miracle bombshell, i had just got my head round it and we had just found a new house as would have to move. We decided abortion wasnt for us.
We had 12 week scan this morning and she said she had to do an internal scan, straight away i said why u should be able to see the baby at this stage, she then said it was because she was having trouble getting the heartbeat.
I went to toilet, came bk, got undressed and she and another lady looked again, after 10 mins she said there was no heartbeat. I had to sit in a room and was given 3 options. Wait for it to happen, medication to start it or operation.
I have had a early miscarriage at 5 wks before but didnt have to do anything, and a molar pregnancy at 8wks where i had to have the op for biopsy.
I have come home as i didnt want to decide, they kept asking which one and i just wanted to be going home with a scan pic of my moving baby,
What do i do, please help x
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I was in a similar situation I opted for the op. I was only given the option to wait on things happening by themselves or to have the op and I felt like I was stuck in limbo! My situation us slightly different though you need to talk it over with your husband and decide what the right thing for you is. Remember to take good care of yourself x
It really is your choice, speak to your husband about it but ultimately it's your choice. Neither way is particularly pleasant. The hospital shouldn't pressure you for an answer, only you know what you want to happen.
Like the others have said take care of yourself and if you have any questions just ask. Hope you feel better soon but don't rush it, you've had a huge shock. We're all here for you if you need us xx