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awful shock at 12 week scan
hi can i join you? im in the din forum but on Thursday i had my twelve week scan and sadly didnt have a good result 
they did an ultrasound and an internal but were only able to find an empty sac measuring 7-9 weeks. i feel so lost as i had no indication until then that anything was wrong and am scared about what will happen next. they wouldn't confirm it was a mmc as they want me to go back for another scan in a week in case i got my dates wrong. however i know this is highly unlikely as i was keeping a record of my cycles which were regular 28 days. so in my heart i know it is over i feel so lost and am really worried Im going to stArt bleeding heavily suddenly. i had a little yellow spotting today but really nothing at all but my lower back has started aching like period pain.so so scared.
they did an ultrasound and an internal but were only able to find an empty sac measuring 7-9 weeks. i feel so lost as i had no indication until then that anything was wrong and am scared about what will happen next. they wouldn't confirm it was a mmc as they want me to go back for another scan in a week in case i got my dates wrong. however i know this is highly unlikely as i was keeping a record of my cycles which were regular 28 days. so in my heart i know it is over i feel so lost and am really worried Im going to stArt bleeding heavily suddenly. i had a little yellow spotting today but really nothing at all but my lower back has started aching like period pain.so so scared. 0
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oh devon_mummy i really feel for you literally the same thing happened to me last september i had a missed miscarriage too, the sac was there but no baby in it...it was a big shock, and then we had to wait a week too to see if there is any change but of course we knew there can't be....i don't understand why can't they just believe you if you are regular and you know your dates!! it really annoyed me at the time as we haven't even bd'd at all because we were so careful in those early weeks and to make me wait a whole week was a torture and i was so scared to miscarry naturally....but thankfully i didn't even though i bled quite a lot and then had a d&c which was the best decision!! it was over really quick and i only had light spotting for a few days after and my period returned exactly 28 days later. i do hope you'll be well looked after!!! sending lots of hugs xxxx
hi HopeBeanSticks, thank you so much for your reply. Im so sorry to hear that you have been through the same thing. It really is awful to go from being excited to have your scan to be told its actually been over for several weeks. I am so scared that the mc might happen naturally before i got back to the hospital next week. I had a threatened mc when i was ten weeks pg with dd and there was so much blood I really dread to know what will happen with the real thing
im so worried that it will happen at work as im only a temp at the mo and dont really know anyone well enough if anything happens and I also dont get paid sick leave cos i havent been there for three month yet. The hospital didnt tell me what to expect (they were really evasive about talking about mc) so ive been looking a bit online. I thinking that the D&C route may be the best as i just want to get it al lover now so I can try to get back to normal, but im so scared that something could go wrong and I wont be able to have any more children.
How are you feeling now? I know its only been two days since I found out but im finding it so hard and not coping too well. hubby is great but although I know he is doing the caveman thing and bottling it up i know he is in pieces too. I keep breaking down and crying and I feel really bad as, even though im trying to hide it from her, i think my 23 months old daughter is picking up on it ( she keeps saying "mummy im not sad" and cuddling me and then she started crying during Charlie and Lola this evening as it was about an ogre who was sad becuase he couldnt sleep and when I asked her what was wrong she said "boy sad, he crying"). We went food shopping in Tesco today and i got upset in the baby aisle as I realised that the only thing we buy there now is nappies and felt insanely jealous when I saw a pregnant woman as I was thinking "that should be me". Im having to wear matrenity jeans as i already had a little bump and im so worried ill bump into someone I know and theyll notice and then it will be really awkward cos ill have to explain that im actually not expecting, I really hope that once it is all over I will be able to cope better, I know im still emotional and full of pregnancy hormones so that probably doesnt help.
I am currently going through early miscarriage and bleeding was pretty heavy yest , i was wary of going out for fear of bleeding too much so i understsnd that part.
Big hugs
Xxxxx
hi mummy060409, so sorry to hear you are going through the same thing, Really hope it ends soon and you are ok xxx I called the hospital and a really lovely ward sister called me back and talked to me about it. She said as the bleeding is so light it could be days before the worst bit happens but as these things are so unpredictable it could equally happen today. Im glad I came home but feel a bit melodramatic as (fingers crossed) it hasnt got worse yet. She eplained what the worst be will be like and gave me a number to call if it gets unbearable and i cant cope with it at home. Im really hoping that it holds off until thursday and my appointment as hopefully the mc can be given a helping hand and managed, rather than going through that. I feel relly awkward about work as they didnt know im pregnant and i dont really know the manager very well yet. As im a temp i also dont get sick pay. Im going to ring her tomoro and explain ( i usually work from home on tues) and request that I can work from home on wed too if im well enough as I dont think I can cope with being away from home at the mo. Sorry if tmi.
I do feel for you honey, its an awful thing to go through. I have had 8 losses myself including 2 ectopics..its not an easy time. You need to rest up. If you go the Dr's they'll just tell you to go home and rest and let nature take its course. Sounds awful I know. Take it easy xx
oh Devon_mummy that's terrible are you ok now? well i went for another scan today and the heartbeat is way too slow so i was told that i will most probably miscarry again too...the 4th time
i have a scan in 7 days time and i just wish it doesn't start naturally as i'm pertified of it!!!xx
Devon Mummy - I am so sorry so hear what you have been going through. I think your decision to hold of ttc for a little while is probabley a good thing as it is a terrible thing to go through. I had my mmc in december and had a ERPC. I started ttc straight away because i felt I wzs ready. Its only now I am pg again I realised the pressure I was putting my body under not to mention myself and dh. I believe once I managed to get myself to relax I was able to 'recover' and fell pg again. I hope you and dh and DD have a wonderful jubilee birthday celebration. go easy on yourself. Plenty of rest and iron to help you recover from the blood loss. I wish you all the best for when you ttc again x x x
HI devon mummy - how are you? Hope you are keeping ok and I understand your sadness re the clothes....its the little things like that that often hit the hardest. Enjoy the jubilee weekend and have a lovely time. If you decided not to wait till September, do give us a yell and join in the ttc club.
Apple x
HI Apple13 - thank you so much for your message x TBH im really up and down still at the mo. Some days I feel ok, just a bit sad and then something little will trigger me and I start blubbing again
Im probably being a bit hard on myself though as its only been a week since the mc. I do feel a bit lost though. I wish i was still able to join in on a forum and chat as i erally miss talking on the due in forums, but we're kind of in limbo at the mo as we're waiting to ttc in autumn. We would love to start ttc asap but there is a bit of an awkward famly situation. My sis is getting married abroad at the beginning of next year and has asked me to be maid of honour and if I get pregnant now I wont be able to go to the wedding as you are not sposed to fly after 7 months. So even though i would love to start ttc now I know that it would save a lot of stress if we didnt. I just hope that it doesnt take us forever to get pg this time though! took one month for dd but the second time it took eight months to fall pregnant and im worried it will take that long again. Im 35 this year so keep worrying that it will be too late 