@Amnx they vacuum it out!!!! oh no see i couldnt have gone thru that ....i hope u had a really nice dr....i know sometimes they have drs during that that refer to the baby as it and other rude things......my dr at the er tried his best to avoid that he said the baby every time n my actual dr called the baby my angel i feel like i could not go thru a dnc .....i didnt get an option to choose though bc it had already started
@Amnx see the first time they say product id be out....like byeee lol......i mentally couldnt do that....i mean seeing the blood for me was traumatic but knowing how the process is done n how they refer to my angel i couldnt do it.......id get really mad n leave i know it......i might b wrong but i dont think they offer a procedure in US unless u need it.....my sister said it wasnt offered to her for her 6w or her 16w
Mrs B 2010 said:
So so sorry to hear your loss! I had Manual vacuum aspiration under local anaesthetic and my reason for choosing that option was it seemed the quickest and lowest risk. They said that if you are under general anaesthetic the chance of perforation of the womb is ever so slightly higher because of you not being awake to feel and stop it (although I believe under general anaesthetic that risk is still very very low) and they said if you have the pessary to pass the baby naturally it can take much longer, and possibly not complete by itself so that you need the procedure anyway. I think if it hadn't been so close to christmas I may have gone with that option. But I have a 2 year old son and I was worried that if I didn't have the procedure when offered it on 22nd december I may end up miscarrying on Christmas day and being unable to spend it with my son. My procedure was ok, I was very anxious, and I could see and feel a lot of blood coming out of me. It's meant to be a very quick procedure, they said less than 5 minutes, but the baby wouldnt come away as easily as they hoped so it actually took closer to half an hour. The baby was taken away (he had broken into pieces so I wasnt able to look at him) and we had a joint cremation ceremony with other miscarried babies around 2 months later. We have decided to plant a tree in the spring and get a plaque made for in our garden. I would definitely take time to read the leaflets and discuss with family and friends the best option. Whatever you choose it's going to be hard and you will need support. However, it does get better with time. And though I'm sure the pain and loss will be with us forever, I'm now nearly 3 months on and I'm finding my grief more manageable. If you want to talk more feel free to message me. Be kind to yourself and take time to recover xxx
Had a awfull few weeks missed miscarriage found out at a private scan should of been 8 weeks no heartbeat size wasnt what it should have been then had a sort of unknown 2 week wait same scenario again ,started bleeding like a period few weeks after then 8 days after bleeding I've had the most scariest bleed where I was soaking through a pad in 10 minutes, dripping out like water and the clots were the size of my palm ,I would of been 10 weeks now,so although the actual foetus wasnt that size my body had already prepared everything else placenta etc,the amount was shocking of tissue and blood called ambulance, hosp wanted 2 keep in due to the amount of blood loss overnight, towards the evening it started easing off slightly and I decided to go home come bak at 8 next morning for a scan to see if anything was left ,there is still a clot but the bleeding is only very little now the hosp are saying it should come out naturally but I'm a bit worried it wont and yet have further complications, this has dragged on for almost 3 weeks had 4 scans ,examinations etc just want to try and get my body back to normal
i have had 2 mc last year first natural 2nd time i had the d&c surgery, i would suggest this option. Its not nice to see or feel what you do if you let it go naturally.
they didnt offer me anything as in cremation or ceremony when i had my d&c, im glad you did and i think planting a tree is a lovely idea. I agree the pain and loss will he forever but it gets slightly more managable xx
The hospital gave me the option of having a communal burial with other wee babies which was done by the hospital chaplains. That happened on Monday. You could ask and see if yours offers something similar or if you are able to do something to mark it. Hope you are okay xx