Miscarriage at 9 weeks
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i have been reading many of comments on here but thought I would pluck up the courage and write my own.
I found out I was pregnant at 3-4 weeks and at the time I just knew I was pregnant I was over the moon and so excited and happy, my pregnancy symptoms started shrotly after feeling sick all day long and going off certain things especially coffee. I started having weird pains a few weeks later at week 5 and so got in touch with my local EPU and I had a scan there was a pregnancy sack and yolk but told it was to early to see a baby yet and to be rescanned so I was booked in for a repeat early scan at 7 weeks and at this scan I saw my baby with a healthy heartbeat and got told ‘everything seems to be going as well as it should’ and the pains disappeared I still felt very sick a week or so later I had what I thought was a really bad 24 hour bug I have a partner and 2 children and not one of them had the bug neither did others I was around. At around 9 weeks I woke up one morning and didn’t have morning sickness and didn’t have it anymore from then I told my partner friend and family and they all said oh it’s just calmed down everything is ok I wasn’t convinced I had been saying from then ‘what if the baby doesn’t have a heartbeat’ it’s almost like I knew but nobody else would listen to me I honestly felt like I was going insane, we was due for our 12 week dating scan very excited and couldn’t wait to see our little baby however last Sunday I started bleeding the tiniest amount and it was dark in colour again my partner family and friends all said it was nothing to worry about and that everything was ok I didn’t feel confident so again I rang EPU they said it was more than likely an infection and that I was ok as I only bled a very small amount once. We went to the EPU and I sat with a nurse on the day I was meant to be 11 weeks 4 days. The nurse said it was moe than likely the inter course what coursed the bleeding. So on we went for the scan I had an ultrasound and was told oh could I just do an internal as your womb is very tilted this didn’t come as a shock and I just thought ok no problem I’ll see my baby soon whilst the internal was happening the sonogropher took glasses off looked and me and said ‘I’m so sorry your baby hasn’t got a heartbeat the baby passed away at 9 weeks’ all I can remember is screaming and breaking down my heart shattered into pieces straight away I was broken and lost. I knew and my body knew something wasn’t right straight from when my symptoms stopped I felt like people wasn’t taking me serious. We was supposed to be having our 12 week scan and instead I had surgery to remove my beautiful baby! I’ve felt numb, lost and just very emotional I have no idea how or when this is going to ease but all I want to know is when can I try again? Will this awful experience happen again? The nurse and midwifes advised me to wait until my bleeding has stopped and to try again straight away as I’ll be highly fertile, nothing could ever replace my baby I’ve lost however trying again and having a healthy positive pregnancy is something that will comfort my broken heart. Please feel free to give me advice as this is something I would really appreciate xx
i have been reading many of comments on here but thought I would pluck up the courage and write my own.
I found out I was pregnant at 3-4 weeks and at the time I just knew I was pregnant I was over the moon and so excited and happy, my pregnancy symptoms started shrotly after feeling sick all day long and going off certain things especially coffee. I started having weird pains a few weeks later at week 5 and so got in touch with my local EPU and I had a scan there was a pregnancy sack and yolk but told it was to early to see a baby yet and to be rescanned so I was booked in for a repeat early scan at 7 weeks and at this scan I saw my baby with a healthy heartbeat and got told ‘everything seems to be going as well as it should’ and the pains disappeared I still felt very sick a week or so later I had what I thought was a really bad 24 hour bug I have a partner and 2 children and not one of them had the bug neither did others I was around. At around 9 weeks I woke up one morning and didn’t have morning sickness and didn’t have it anymore from then I told my partner friend and family and they all said oh it’s just calmed down everything is ok I wasn’t convinced I had been saying from then ‘what if the baby doesn’t have a heartbeat’ it’s almost like I knew but nobody else would listen to me I honestly felt like I was going insane, we was due for our 12 week dating scan very excited and couldn’t wait to see our little baby however last Sunday I started bleeding the tiniest amount and it was dark in colour again my partner family and friends all said it was nothing to worry about and that everything was ok I didn’t feel confident so again I rang EPU they said it was more than likely an infection and that I was ok as I only bled a very small amount once. We went to the EPU and I sat with a nurse on the day I was meant to be 11 weeks 4 days. The nurse said it was moe than likely the inter course what coursed the bleeding. So on we went for the scan I had an ultrasound and was told oh could I just do an internal as your womb is very tilted this didn’t come as a shock and I just thought ok no problem I’ll see my baby soon whilst the internal was happening the sonogropher took glasses off looked and me and said ‘I’m so sorry your baby hasn’t got a heartbeat the baby passed away at 9 weeks’ all I can remember is screaming and breaking down my heart shattered into pieces straight away I was broken and lost. I knew and my body knew something wasn’t right straight from when my symptoms stopped I felt like people wasn’t taking me serious. We was supposed to be having our 12 week scan and instead I had surgery to remove my beautiful baby! I’ve felt numb, lost and just very emotional I have no idea how or when this is going to ease but all I want to know is when can I try again? Will this awful experience happen again? The nurse and midwifes advised me to wait until my bleeding has stopped and to try again straight away as I’ll be highly fertile, nothing could ever replace my baby I’ve lost however trying again and having a healthy positive pregnancy is something that will comfort my broken heart. Please feel free to give me advice as this is something I would really appreciate xx
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I know the journey can be an emotional rollercoaster but my baby Matilda is worth every worry or pain I had and I’m sure you’ll get your rainbow baby if you don’t give up!xxx