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Can't believe its happened again
Well ladies it looks like I've had another mc.
Got my bfp almost two weeks ago when I was in Paris, But then last Thursday I started bleeding and had really awful cramps. It felt like what I thought a mc would feel like (my first was a mmc and had a d&c).
Did a CBD at the time and it came up with pregnant 1-2 so thought there may still be hope. Spoke to the doctors who said they would arrange a scan for a weeks time as it would be too early to see anything.
Anyway just did a CBD this morning and it says not pregnant so I guess its all over.
This was the first cycle since my mmc in July and I was so happy that it happened so quickly.
But now I am back to the beginning- again.
I am really worried now that I have got something wrong with me- two mc in three months. I am young fit and healthy and so is my hubby so why is this happening to me?
I am thinking of asking for some tests as I know I can't go through this for a third time.
Some of you may remember me from my last mc saying that my sister was pregnant too, and her due date was a few weeks ahead of my first due date. For the week that I was pg again we were getting on so well, planning things to do together etc etc and now i feel like i have to distance myself from her again because its just too painful.
I feel like I am in limbo at the moment. I just graduated from uni and have been offered a job but can't take it as we have been told that my hubby will probably have to move soon with his work. So at the moment I have nothing in my life, i feel like my life is going to waste and the one thing that i really want to do (have a child) i can't.
sorry for the rant ladies.
hope everyone is well
xx
Got my bfp almost two weeks ago when I was in Paris, But then last Thursday I started bleeding and had really awful cramps. It felt like what I thought a mc would feel like (my first was a mmc and had a d&c).
Did a CBD at the time and it came up with pregnant 1-2 so thought there may still be hope. Spoke to the doctors who said they would arrange a scan for a weeks time as it would be too early to see anything.
Anyway just did a CBD this morning and it says not pregnant so I guess its all over.
This was the first cycle since my mmc in July and I was so happy that it happened so quickly.
But now I am back to the beginning- again.
I am really worried now that I have got something wrong with me- two mc in three months. I am young fit and healthy and so is my hubby so why is this happening to me?
I am thinking of asking for some tests as I know I can't go through this for a third time.
Some of you may remember me from my last mc saying that my sister was pregnant too, and her due date was a few weeks ahead of my first due date. For the week that I was pg again we were getting on so well, planning things to do together etc etc and now i feel like i have to distance myself from her again because its just too painful.
I feel like I am in limbo at the moment. I just graduated from uni and have been offered a job but can't take it as we have been told that my hubby will probably have to move soon with his work. So at the moment I have nothing in my life, i feel like my life is going to waste and the one thing that i really want to do (have a child) i can't.
sorry for the rant ladies.
hope everyone is well
xx
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I really hope this happens for you soon
xx
I have been thinking about you recently & wondering how you have been but wasnt sure were to post a msg for you.
Im really so sorry that this has happened again hun. If you have an understanding GP they may be able to refer you to a gynae but sadly they usually say we have to go through this 3 times until we can have a referral. Maybe your GP could do some routine bloods for you. You could have all these tests done & they find nothing & it is sadly just one of those things as they say but then go on to have a healthy pg with the outcome we all want, our babies with us.
I know it knocks you for six & it's hard enough experiencing it once let alone 2, 3 or more times. We are spending a bit of time letting my body recover from the 3 pg i've had in 1 year & then will start trying again, maybe you can focus on this for a little while. I know how you feel about the job situation too hun I got made redundant in Feb & havent been able to find a job since then & feel I have nothing to focus on but you will get through this sweetie I promise you. You may need a bit of time to yourself but im sure your sister will understand what a difficult time you are having at the moment.
If you need anything then you know were we are sending you lots of hugs & love xxxxx
Laujai- I keep thinking that there must be a reason for why it is happening. I have read things about people who have recurrent mc to take aspirin when they are pregnant- and the solution is as simple as that.
It's all so frustrating. and then to top if off I have my mum (who was so good with my first mc) saying to me that maybe it was just a late period and i should think of it like that?! It's not a period if I bleed and have terrible pains for just one day, a week after af is due!! grrr. I know she means well.
xx
I have my apt on tues at the gynae for recurrent mc so I will come back after & put all the info i've found out on here even if just to give us some hope. Do you have a understanding GP they may refer you, mine did after we had the chem pg (2nd mc) but this was also cause I have a history of gynae problems, it's worth asking them or ask them to do some bloods for you to check if it would be worth taking low does aspirin or a higher dose of folic acid.
If you need a chat hun you know were I am or can email me xxxxx
I'm so sorry for your losses. I have also had two m/c's so I know what you are going through.
I agree with Lujai, sometimes a sympathetic dr can refer you. Mine wasn't particularly sympathetic but we ended up seeing a consultant privately who referred us for some tests - we had chromosonal tests and the tests for Hughes Syndrome (the "sticky blood" syndrome that you need asprin for). The specialist we saw though said that there is no reason why you can't take low dose asprin anyway. I know how frustrating it is the thought that all this pain could be prevented.
I know that your mum is only trying to help but I have had the "period" point said to me but its a loss of yourr hopes and dreams as well as your much wanted bean. I know she is just trying to make you feel better though bless her.
I understand how difficult it must be your sister being pregnant. A very good friend of mine (who i grew up with) almost like a sister got pregnant just after my first m/c and i found it very painful to see her bump and hear abuot her pregnancy. I found it even harder as we have shared everything in our lives and this was the one thing we cuoldn't share. It was also so dificult at family events and things.
I hope for both of us its third time lucky. Take care of yourself sweetie x
I recently suffered my 2nd MC both have been really early, Like you they were within months of each other (the first a Chem PG in June and 2nd MC at 6+4 earlier this month)I've been told that nect time I fall pregnant I'll be eligible for and early scan and that if I miscarry again they would start investigating. Have you been given any information by a dr or midwife?
Hope you get your sticky bean soon xx