Feel So Lonely And Depressed :(
hi. some of the girls might know me from the due in september forum. i found out on wednesday from an early scan that my baby was no longer alive. i was meant to be 9 weeks pregnant but it had died around 6 weeks i went in for an ERPC on the thursday and was let out ofc hospital that day. since iv been home i cant stop thinkin about things! i just cant beleave for 3 weeks i had been finkin my baby was ok but it had actuali died at 6 weeks . iv had no bleeding or pains since my opeeration which i do find kinda strange??? some people say that getting pregnant again will help you get over it and thats what i really want but my partners different.. he wants to wait for least another year but i really cant deal with that... weve argued more than ever and i really dont want to lose him aswell as my baby. ive been reading all these messages on this forum and i find them really helpful but also gutting that other people are going through what i am now.. its the hardest thing in the world getting over this. if anyone can offer me any advice or help then i would love 2 hear please! take care all xxx
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This forum is agreat place to come on and vent your feelings, you can say anything you want to hear and we will all understand. For me this place has really really helped me comes to terms with my loss. I find it very hard to talk to people who have not experienced a mc.
Sorry to hear about your partner but perhaps it is because it has only just happened. It is such early days and men deal with things in different ways, my hubbie hates to talk about his feelings and bottles things up. He may be scared to try again but doesnt want to admit it. Perhaps the best thing to do is just to drop it for now and give him few weeks to grieve, then he may start to be more open to the idea. I dont know if he is the same but my partner digs his heels in if he doesnt want to do something and it just gets harder and harder.
Take care and look after yourself
Jacqui
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Not sure what to say about your partner. i agree with jacquid though, maybe he is just finding it really stressful and upsetting at the moment and he needs more time to grieve. I know when I first found out we had lost our baby, i wanted to try again asap but at the same time just didnt feel ready to. maybe he is just scared it will happen again. give him a bit of time. talk to him about the baby you lost and help each other come to terms with that, and hopefully given some time he will start to think differently.
like jacquid said, this is a great place to come and vent your feelings, or ask for advice. the ladies here are so lovely, and have really helped me.
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are you feeling any better today? I too am having dicussions with my hubby about when to start TTC again as we have recieved so much conflicting advice and it's juts so hard to work out out what to do for the best.
Sending you lots of hugs
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Take care
Jacqui
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last year i had a mmc in june then OH said we could try again after my first cycle so i was excited, tried again in the july and was preg again by end of july but sadly lost that baby too in september.
6 months on and i still really really want a baby, its all i think about from the moment i wake up till the moment i go to sleep, i even dream about babies sometimes!!
My OH doesnt feel quite the same as me and wants to wait a while till we try again which im not coping with very well. We argue loads and i always threaten to leave him...I know this is a very nasty thing to say and i never would but i just get so angry and upset with him, something he can give me and he wont share!
Its so hard isnt it
Emma xxx
Jacqui
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