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What's the best you've had? (Bit of a rant! :evil: )
As in responses when people find out that you have had a mc/mmc/ectopic?
What I can think of so far is;
*at least you know you can get pg
*it wasn't the right time
*it's nature's way
AAARRRGGGHHH! Get over youself, AS IF anyone of that makes me feel better :evil:
What I can think of so far is;
*at least you know you can get pg
*it wasn't the right time
*it's nature's way
AAARRRGGGHHH! Get over youself, AS IF anyone of that makes me feel better :evil:
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Thankfully it's been 4 months since my mc, so people have stopped commenting on it now, but I agree it can be very annoying!
Merry Christmas to all
Also in there are:
"You now know what it's like to be a woman" I don't think my baby needed to die to know I was a woman!
"Using a laptop on my "lap" could have caused your ectopic pregnancy" That one caused serious tear/extreme anger
"There was obviously something wrong with it" Yes, "it" wasn't in my womb
"When are you trying for another baby" Would you say that the minutes someones child died-no
I could carry on and no doubt will after christmas when I have to hear my nanny's pearls of wisdom!
x x x
The senior partner at my work has been brilliant. He regularly comes up to me, gives me a gentle hug, asks me how I am and tells me it is all going to be alright and to give myself time to get over it. He did this last night at the christmas do when most people have assumed i'd been over it after 3 months. My dad on the other hand hasn't even mentioned the fact that I was even pregnant. x x x
[Modified by: faithie on December 20, 2009 09:30 AM]
"i know someone who had 5/10/a million miscarriages and then had a healthy baby"
Oh thats ok then!
'you wouldn't cry over a period would you' - last time I checked I didn't have to give birth to my dead baby with af
'well... It wasn't really a baby was it' -you want to see the pictures because SHE was v much a baby!
'there mustve been something wrong with it and you wouldn't have wanted that would you' - oh no I'm far too self absorbed for that!
'it's very common you know'- not at 20weeks and who cares!
'well at least you have one already'
'at least you know you can get pregnant' - oh ok i won't cry for my lost child then!
'imagine how much worse it wouldve been if you'd gone to 40weeks etc' - yes that wouldve been horrible but so is this!
'think of so and so who had such n such happen'
'it's gods will'- I'd like to see your reaction if i said that to you the moment your child died!
There have been so many hurtful things said and I agree when people say nothing that hurts too.
My ils talked to my oh but never said a word to me (agreed in the beginning i couldn't face anyone and then oh forbid them from mentioning 'it') and then first time I saw them 'you've lost weight!' no sh!t, the last time they saw me I was 5mths pregnant, needless to say I broke down and said this (minus swearing) they still said nothing!!!!!!!!????
Aaaaaarrrrgggh no one will ever truly understand but I would like to think that should I need to offer support I'd think of better things to say than ALL the above????
'aw you were just unlucky' - pheweee and there I was thinking it was more than that
The anaesthetist that was taking me down to theatre for my ERPC asked me if i already had children, when i said that i have a son who is almost 2 (at the time) she said "ah, and that would have been a lovely age gap wouldn't it"!!!!!!
Honestly, what goes through some people's heads other than daylight!
Jodie xx