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Does anyone else worry....
that when they have another baby that the won't be as excited or have enough love to go around?
DH and I have decided that we will start TTC to conceive when Holly-Kate turns one (if I can wait that long), but I really worry that I won't be as exicted about the pregnancy as I was the first time round. The feeling of love is so overwhelming as well, I can't help but think that I would love our next baby as much.
I really can't wait to have another baby, so I know I will have enough love but my mind goes into over drive thinking about things like this! Silly Me!!!
DH and I have decided that we will start TTC to conceive when Holly-Kate turns one (if I can wait that long), but I really worry that I won't be as exicted about the pregnancy as I was the first time round. The feeling of love is so overwhelming as well, I can't help but think that I would love our next baby as much.
I really can't wait to have another baby, so I know I will have enough love but my mind goes into over drive thinking about things like this! Silly Me!!!
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Only thing is that other people aren't quite as excited even my dh took longer to bond with grace as he kept comparing her to dd1. For me it was instant though and equally amazing.
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This is true actually - it's not so much that I loved DD1 any less but in the early days my instinct was to focus on Grace so I had to make a conscious effort to pay as much attention as before to DD1. I'm sure it's just a hormonal/tiredness thing - all the chemicals in your body are making you want to focus on nurturing your newborn so it's easy to get irritated by an energetic toddler. It really didn't last long though - a week or so at most - and then you adjust to the fact that your attention needs to be split between your 2 babies. You also start to see the relationship between your children which is so lovely - when DD1 plays with or cuddles Grace or wants to show/tell her something it really makes me mushy!
The other thing I found was that my attention naturally focused on the child that everyone else wasn't focused on. So in the very early days, my family were really great at making DD1 know she was still centre of attention and I felt a bit sensitive about Grace and the fact that other people didn't love her as much as they did DD1. Then I visited my Great Grandad and Great Aunt and they were obsessed with Grace and ignored DD1 (who'd previously been the apple of their eye) a little bit so I felt really protective towards her and her feelings.