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I think im going to stop breast feeding but feel guilty
I am having a bit of a stress over this.
My little boy is 7 weeks on tuesday and i am thinking that i am going to have to stop breast feeding all together.
the problem is that he never seems settled or content after breast feeding, he doesnt feed for that long and then stops, i try to persevere but he isnt interested, so 30 mins later he is hungry again so i feed him again, it just seems endless.
When he was a few weeks old he lost alot of weight and i was told to top him up with forrmula by health visitor, i did this and so he has always had a bit of formula, i presume this is maybe the problem as i presume i am not producing enough milk.
So basically over the last week i have been giving him more and more formula rather than BF as it seems to make him happy, I am attempting to express to keep my milk production up, but only seem to be able to get about 2 fl oz if im lucky, if i go about half a day without Bf then i can get about 4fl oz, but its just not enough and im now seeing why he isnt very content or full.
Anyway im thinking that i may have to stop bf now as its just not working and he is so much happier on formula, but i just feel guilty but im not sure why, is anyone else is the same situation, am i wrong to stop?
I have tried drinking lots and expressing lots but no joy yet???
My little boy is 7 weeks on tuesday and i am thinking that i am going to have to stop breast feeding all together.
the problem is that he never seems settled or content after breast feeding, he doesnt feed for that long and then stops, i try to persevere but he isnt interested, so 30 mins later he is hungry again so i feed him again, it just seems endless.
When he was a few weeks old he lost alot of weight and i was told to top him up with forrmula by health visitor, i did this and so he has always had a bit of formula, i presume this is maybe the problem as i presume i am not producing enough milk.
So basically over the last week i have been giving him more and more formula rather than BF as it seems to make him happy, I am attempting to express to keep my milk production up, but only seem to be able to get about 2 fl oz if im lucky, if i go about half a day without Bf then i can get about 4fl oz, but its just not enough and im now seeing why he isnt very content or full.
Anyway im thinking that i may have to stop bf now as its just not working and he is so much happier on formula, but i just feel guilty but im not sure why, is anyone else is the same situation, am i wrong to stop?
I have tried drinking lots and expressing lots but no joy yet???
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Do whatever makes you more comfortable and happier. i dont think you should feel guilty about giving up. its just breastfeeding, its not like you are neglecting your child
I'm sorry im ranting, i just hate that you are made to feel so guilty about it.
All the best.
claire and lara 10 weeks
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p.s lara has fed wonderfully on the breast the whole time but i wouldnt think twice about giving her formula if she needed it.
[Modified by: clairol2 on June 11, 2010 11:47 PM]
I've been in a similar situation and finally an hour ago have made the decision that enough is enough and it's game over for us (posted in bim) and I feel guilty for saying it but I already feel so relieved. Ryan will be 7weeks next Thursday and we've had issues with bfing and getting him to latch on properly since day1. A week ago I was advised to express to give my boobs a break and nipples a chance to heal, I couldn't keep up with him as he's been having formula top ups since day3 due to losing too much weight but was managing two thirds ebm and around a third ff each day. Feeds became less stressful (not that he was impressed with waiting for a bottle) he was much happier and because he was full we had much more time that he was awake and contented and I in turn was happier and not in pain. Now that my boobs recovered spent the last two days back bfing and back with us both being unhappy. Having spent half an hour this morning trying to get him on the boob with him hysterical and me in tears I have finally realised that enough is enough. I'm going to try to continue expressing so he can have some breastmilk, but not on a strict 3hr schedule like I was doing as it ruled our life for the last week and I'll still offer him the boob first in the night (if he wakes up) as for some reason it was working then before and if it still does saves getting up to sort a bottle out.
I do feel guilty but as a friend said only you can know when enough is enough and I feel guiltier about making him and me unhappy. I was worried about regreting it if I made this decision but my mum had told me I always will (she still regrets stopping with me after 6weeks but at the same time appreciates it was the right decision) but I've come to terms with that now.
Sorry I've rambled on here but what I'm trying to get at is that I think we will feel guilty but it's the lesser of 2 evils. Formula isn't posion, it's certainly not going to do them any harm, but if it means a happy baby with a full tummy and a happy mummy then it's the best choice. Well done for getting this far, we've both given our lo's the best start we can but if you know enough is enough then the best thing all round has to be to stop.
If you do WANT to persevere though I'm sure you can get advise on increasing your supply to make up for the top ups but for us I've realised now I don't want to put ds through that xx
The emphasis is on u though, do what u feel is right for u! Do not feel guilty or pressured into keeping up with something that may not be working, but also don't feel pressured into formula if u don't want too. There are too many ppl out there with strong opinions on both esp bf & sometimes I don't think they look at the bigger picture.
Never ever feel guilty about doing something that right for your family
jayne xx
if you think you cant go on any longer it might be better for you to change.
However, she is happy - growing well, and we haven't seen any sign of colic (fingers crossed). So that's great.
Do what is going to make you and bubs happiest but, as Kayssis said, if you want to carry on, there is a lot of help and advice out there (Mrs Setter's fabulous posts on here as a starter for 10!).
Good luck hon and don't feel guilty no matter what.
xx