Seriously losing it now
I am at my wits end and just don't know how much more I can take of this.
Lucas is only happy with me. He can be merrily sat on my knee and the second someone else takes him he screams. He took an hour to settle for 5 minutes with his Dad the other day and we saw that as a miracle. I feel like I am permanently attached...he sleeps on me day and night as if I even attempt to put him down he screams until he s soaking through or is sick. He does the same if I even try to have 10 minutes to myself. He will only play happily with me right next to him and even then only briefly. I just have to carry him round all the time...on the loo, sorting the washing, making and eating any food.
I just can't cope anymore. I cannot see any way to fix this. I snap at OH constantly as he does nothing with Lucas, but only because he can't. I sometimes just want to leave. I'm starting to resent them both.
I am sat here listening to Lucas just screaming as DH tries to settle him and I'm in tears and just want it all to go away. I am so jealous of people with babies who sleep by themselves and spend time with OHs and grandparents.
Will someone please tell me how to make this better? I don't know what I'll do if this doesn't stop soon.
Lucas is only happy with me. He can be merrily sat on my knee and the second someone else takes him he screams. He took an hour to settle for 5 minutes with his Dad the other day and we saw that as a miracle. I feel like I am permanently attached...he sleeps on me day and night as if I even attempt to put him down he screams until he s soaking through or is sick. He does the same if I even try to have 10 minutes to myself. He will only play happily with me right next to him and even then only briefly. I just have to carry him round all the time...on the loo, sorting the washing, making and eating any food.
I just can't cope anymore. I cannot see any way to fix this. I snap at OH constantly as he does nothing with Lucas, but only because he can't. I sometimes just want to leave. I'm starting to resent them both.
I am sat here listening to Lucas just screaming as DH tries to settle him and I'm in tears and just want it all to go away. I am so jealous of people with babies who sleep by themselves and spend time with OHs and grandparents.
Will someone please tell me how to make this better? I don't know what I'll do if this doesn't stop soon.
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It *will* get better. Hang in there chook.
He had a few tough times but it wasn't as bad as we expected and now she is happy spending time with her daddy or grandparents and I even had a mate babysit for a couple of hours last week with no problems.
Really hope this gets better for you soon hon.
Xxx
I would go out of the house and leave him behind with his Dad. Did this with DD and yes they both struggled initially and I was a nervous wreck whilst I was out but it helped Dad find his own way to settle her and things have been much improved since.
Good luck
xx
It's awful though isn't it - you just feel physically sick to hear them crying and your not the one comforting them. I find it so hard to leave my oh to it when I'm in the house.
Next week I am going to start trying to settle Lucas by himself as the nursery is finally finished, and I will make sure I leave the house for longer and longer when DH has him, I think you ladies are right. I know I'm in for a rough few weeks but know in the long run it will improve my life and in turn Lucas'.
Wish I was making the meet up tomorrow, but am heading to my parents for a few days. Hopefully I'll get a little time to myself while I'm there to recharge.
*hugs*
There you go, sweets. Seems that if they want you on an SSRI, Sertraline is the one to go for.
Anyway, everything is crossed for you and hope things start to improve soon. xx
So sorry you're having such a rubbish time of it hun. Sounds like your dr is being a bit crap - can you go back & speak to him about the ones Maenad suggested? Anti-d's can really really help people. Also, it's great that Lucas has been diagnosed (obviously horrible that he has it in the first place though) - hopefully once the reflux meds kick-in he might be a little easier to settle & happier with your OH etc. Good idea about going out for a while whilst your OH settles Lucas - could you maybe meet up with a friend close-by or go for a walk or something? A change of environment can really help sometimes.
Take care & perhaps requesting the BF-friendly meds from the dr wouldn't be a bad idea?
xxx