Planning another anyone?
Hi ladies
I know it's early days and I'm amazed to be even considering this, but just wondering if anyone has any thoughts on having another baby? We've decided we want one more baby, close in age to Jack so they can be brought up together. Although he has Brad as a big brother, there's 12 years between them and Brad already spends every waking moment playing with his friends either outside or on his x-box so it's not fair to expect Brad to play with him all the time.
Any advice on perfect age (if there is a one) to try for another? My midwife said to leave it 2 years but I'm not getting any younger and what if it takes a few years to happen? I'd rather 2 years maximum gap between them (in an ideal world). Hubby wants to try straight away but I want to wait until the New Year so I can have some 'me' time back before doing it again.
Any advice or personal experience would be great...
Thanks
Kirsty and Jack xxx
I know it's early days and I'm amazed to be even considering this, but just wondering if anyone has any thoughts on having another baby? We've decided we want one more baby, close in age to Jack so they can be brought up together. Although he has Brad as a big brother, there's 12 years between them and Brad already spends every waking moment playing with his friends either outside or on his x-box so it's not fair to expect Brad to play with him all the time.
Any advice on perfect age (if there is a one) to try for another? My midwife said to leave it 2 years but I'm not getting any younger and what if it takes a few years to happen? I'd rather 2 years maximum gap between them (in an ideal world). Hubby wants to try straight away but I want to wait until the New Year so I can have some 'me' time back before doing it again.
Any advice or personal experience would be great...
Thanks
Kirsty and Jack xxx
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Ideally we would like to start again once Holly is 1 but I really dont want to go on the mini pill and as im breast feeding the normal pill is out too, not that I really want to go back on that either. I cant imagine us always using condoms so its more likely going to be that we wont be trying but we wont be trying too hard to prevent it either. We know we want at least one more so we would be delighted whenever it happened.
I would like another and like you Kirsty, 2 years apart but then as you have put, what if it takes a while to conceive? I too am not getting any younger. I think we'll probably start trying in a year as I'd rather allow plenty of time to fully recover after my section.
Shell xx
Jo xxx
I have told people I don't want to have to get a double buggy, so I am back on the pill now! xx
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I'm going to write my birth story tomorrow (I'm determined!!) but based on how I feel right now I dont think I can ever go through it again. Hubby and I have talked a lot about it this week and neither of us want Harrison to be an only child but we're both as terrified as each other about me getting pregnant and having a similar pregnancy / birth again that we've decided that we'll look towards adoption. Its something we've always agreed we'd do at some stage anyway as (many of you know what i do for a living) its a subject close to my heart. My midwife came round on saturday and was adament I'll change my mind - maybe I will in the future, but I just dont feel it right now.
Lisa xxx
Hubby had 2 years between him and his brother, and would have liked a bigger gap, whereas there are 8 & 10 years between me and my sisters, and although we are close we are all our own people, and we all like the gap between me and them, rather than them as they are again 2 years apart and feel like they have always had to do everything together.
We want to enjoy Isabelle and her baby years, and then do the same with the next, if money was no object we would be having many more than 2, but we just can't sadly
Bets XxX
I said when i had my first I didnt want anymore, then became pregnant when she was 6 months which sadly ended in a mmc, after that I said never again then became pregnant with Lucy and all the way through my pregnany with Lucy I said no more. She is now 8 weeks and I am coming round to the idea of another one, but Lucy will be at least 3 before I do it all again well that is the plan at the moment.
I am not going back on the pill, so we will have to be very careful.
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Jack has changed my whole outlook on life and my once career driven mind has gone completely out of the window. I'm loving being a mammy so much I never want to go back! (Will have to check the finances though!!!) I now feel I missed out on so much with Brad and even with a new baby, I have so much more time to spend with him doing homework and making meals rather than coming in a bad mood, marking files, preparing classes and banging something in for tea from the freezer!
May just be hormones but will wait and see how it goes. I'm not going back on the pill - or maybe I should as I've fallen pregnant on the pill - TWICE!!!
I am concerned though how I'll manage with a one year old and a baby (if all goes to plan) but I'm sure I will! (I'll just have to!...lol)
Kirsty xxx
There is no chance I want another one,2 is enough
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James is a very placid baby as was my daughter so knowing our luck our third will be a monster lol!! x
We will just try when we feel ready i think.
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the mini pill is taken while breastfeeding and has to be taken at the same time every day and unlike the pill you take it continuously without having a week off.
we would defo like to have another, hubby wants me to be pregnant by the time cailey is 1, but i'd like to maybe wait 18 months.
a girl i work with has just 13 months between her little girls and she says its fab.... however not so sure I would be so brave!
xxx