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the good and the bad...
I'm chuffed.. my friend is expecting her third lo in July, and has just asked me to be godmum to her new little girl. I wasn't expecting that and I'm really pleased to be asked 
The bad is that after 5 months of persevering to make sure that I manage to breastfeed Cole at least once a day, even if its not much, it looks like my milk has finally gone..he's been getting less interested in bf'ing except as a comfort sometimes, or when he's been tired. I was determined to keep bf'ing till Cole was six months but theres not a lot I can do about it now really.
I didn't enjoy bf;ing at first but once I started giving Cole formula I did enjoy it as the pressure was off to fill him up, and I will miss those early mornings cuddled up in bed feeding him. I do feel sad that I've not managed to do better for him, but after the rough birth I know I should be happy I managed this much, and I think I've got enough ebm in the freezer to do a good 3-4 weeks of porridge mixed with ebm which will take me upt ot the six months I wanted to feed for.
The bad is that after 5 months of persevering to make sure that I manage to breastfeed Cole at least once a day, even if its not much, it looks like my milk has finally gone..he's been getting less interested in bf'ing except as a comfort sometimes, or when he's been tired. I was determined to keep bf'ing till Cole was six months but theres not a lot I can do about it now really.
I didn't enjoy bf;ing at first but once I started giving Cole formula I did enjoy it as the pressure was off to fill him up, and I will miss those early mornings cuddled up in bed feeding him. I do feel sad that I've not managed to do better for him, but after the rough birth I know I should be happy I managed this much, and I think I've got enough ebm in the freezer to do a good 3-4 weeks of porridge mixed with ebm which will take me upt ot the six months I wanted to feed for.
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And congrats on feeding for so long! I gave up after 8 weeks for selfish reasons really and looking back could've done what you did with the feeding 1st thing etc. Feel proud for what you've done.
I think if there wasn't this 6mth tag on bf, mums would feel less pressure and prob feed for as long or as little as they wanted without the guilt. x
It's lovely you've been asked to be godmum. I am to my little sister and 2 of my cousins children. We're trying to decide on Rhys's godparents but we can't decide ha ha
The 6 month tag and all the bf-ing propaganda really doesn't help with the guilt and stuff... the poster n the asda babychanging room flinging bf-ing in your face is still pissing me off and I've seen it a few times now!
I've now got 3 1/2 godchildren now..
Well done on feeding Cole for so long, I think its a real achievement and you should be very proud of yourself. I stopped bfing Holly about 3 weeks ago and am proud of myself for lasting so long. I agree with Ali that there is too much presure put on new mums to bf for 6 months and for babys to be solely bf, I bet whoever came up with that has no kids!
Also, well done on bf-ing for so long... I gave up with Bryn when he was 4 months old as I just couldn't keep up with the demand, and he wouldn't take a bottle while there was the possibility of booby!.... plus I wanted to be able to pass him over to oh to be fed occasionally (this hasn't happened very often though!!). One of the hv at the clinic said to me (with her head on one side and in a very weedy pathetic voice) 'o what a shame, you were doing so well, couldn't you have tried for a bit longer'! My hv said I'd made the right decision for me! I bf'd Ophelia for 8 months and she was a real pain to wean and was soooo clingy and I'm sure that was down to bfing for so long.
Thanks everyone.. I knew you lot would make me feel better about no more bf-ing.
Better get a move on with the blanket for my new goddaughter... she's due in a month and I only have 9 squares done!
and well done for bf this long!!!! xxxx
On the bf - thats ace that you were able to go so long. I am starting my weaning off next week when Sam is 6 months. I am quite looking forward to someone else being able to feed him.
I am so impressed that you all bf for so long (or still are) I'm still beating myself up about not being able to feed Amy myself but hubby actually admitted the other day that he's glad I wasn't able to bf as he loves the closeness of being able to feed Amy too - aaahhhh!
The whole pressure thing from the government, hv and midwifes is wrong, it's an individual choice and whether you do it for 6 months or 6 days is your choice!
I'll get off my soapbox now!
Makes me laugh as he's adamant that he can't smell whats coming from Amy's bum - doesn't want to more like!!!