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UNDER PROTECTIVE??
Hi girls, i know i dont post very often more but this is really bugging me.
I have a friend with a lo just a few months younger than Harri and they are both about the same level development wise and are both great kids, they are 2. the last few times ive been with my friend and her lo at the park ive noticed that she follows her lo around everywere, doesnt let her do anything with even the slightest risk to it, and freaks when she goes even a few steps out of reach she freaks were as im happy to let harri get on with it aslong as i can see what hes doing so i can intervene if i need to. I dont feel the need to follow him around the park, i know what he can handle and to be honest hes a very confident and capable little boy.
Now am i being under protective? should i be by his side constantly ready to catch him up and cuddle him if at every fall or trip? should i be more like my friend and protect him from everything 'just incase'? i
this is really bugging me so any opinions would be great
xxxx
I have a friend with a lo just a few months younger than Harri and they are both about the same level development wise and are both great kids, they are 2. the last few times ive been with my friend and her lo at the park ive noticed that she follows her lo around everywere, doesnt let her do anything with even the slightest risk to it, and freaks when she goes even a few steps out of reach she freaks were as im happy to let harri get on with it aslong as i can see what hes doing so i can intervene if i need to. I dont feel the need to follow him around the park, i know what he can handle and to be honest hes a very confident and capable little boy.
Now am i being under protective? should i be by his side constantly ready to catch him up and cuddle him if at every fall or trip? should i be more like my friend and protect him from everything 'just incase'? i
this is really bugging me so any opinions would be great
xxxx
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It just depends on the park and where your LO is up to. Our park has just been redone and some of the flooring / grass is uneven, there are big stones that has been kicked in from the entrance gate so at the min I think at 2 1/2yrs I need to be there. However there are lots of Mums with ones that age and younger that don't go with Lo (And it's always me that ends up pushing them and interacting with them!!!)
I also go with LO in soft play there are just too many 2 to 6 yr olds that go in and push Lo if noone is there with them.
My eldest who is 5 still has no idea he wanted to climb a tree the other day and I said he was't big enough but cos the older boys had he wanted to of course I ended up getting him down cos he got stuck but hopfully he will be more cautious when he is old enough to ho to thepark on his own!!
My eldest who is 5 still has no idea he wanted to climb a tree the other day and I said he was't big enough but cos the older boys had he wanted to of course I ended up getting him down cos he got stuck but hopfully he will be more cautious when he is old enough to ho to thepark on his own!!
I let Gracie explore on her own, but will also go with her when she wants help or company. We rarely go to the park without her having other children to play with or follow (mainly her big bros) so she doesn't need me much now. She is the biggest adrenaline junkie ever lol and will do everything on the under9's park, apart from the fireman's pole on her own! She loves jumping off things and from quite a height too...
Anyway, I mostly let Elijah get on with it and follow him just for company really as its usually just me and him. If i do sit down he usually asks me to come with him lol. But im fine just to watch as i know his limits and would go with him if i thought he might fall. I guess im middle protective lol. But oh is defintely more 'let them get on with it' and this scares me at times as Elijah is so fast. But yea, i guess its fine as long as youre watching and know lo's limits xx
Anyway, I mostly let Elijah get on with it and follow him just for company really as its usually just me and him. If i do sit down he usually asks me to come with him lol. But im fine just to watch as i know his limits and would go with him if i thought he might fall. I guess im middle protective lol. But oh is defintely more 'let them get on with it' and this scares me at times as Elijah is so fast. But yea, i guess its fine as long as youre watching and know lo's limits xx
I don't let them wander around near a road on their own though, infact generally if we are anywhere near cars we put them in the double buggy as it is much easier to keep them safe that way!