tantrums, how are you tackling them?
LO had started to tantrum when he doent get his own way or gets told off, he will screach really loud and cry paddy style, i have tried telling him no but it doesn really do anygood so i have started to ignore it at home but it can last ages and i want to knock it on the head now really
any ideas?
any ideas?
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at 18 months i will start time out at home. in the supermarket (dd1's fav place to throw a paddy) i get down to her level tell her way her behaviour is unacceptable and ask her if she understands. this is normally enough to stop any paddy.
i am strict, i dont talk down to my children i calmly explain why i have said no/why it cant happen ect, i dont smack or anything and i like to deal with it there and then so they know why- (i mean i wont stop them having the tv on when we get home as they have forgotten by then what went wrong,lol)
I have no idea how to stop it, even our health visitor was shocked at how bad and early the terrible two's seem to have struck.
I was starting to think that it was something to do with my style of parenting but my mum reassured me that I was like E but none of my siblings were so I think it is partly a personality think.
At home I have tried sitting her on the bottom step of the stairs and shutting myself in another room and counting to 60, by this time she seems to have snapped out of it and just cries because she is on her own. I don't like doing it but it does make her forget what she was paddying about!
So I don't really have any advice but you're definetely not on your own!
in a way i am glad its now and not when the next arrives, i dont think he is quite at the stage of understanding just yet though hope it wont be long!
Oh, and the hv said that those who do have mega tantrums at this age are often quite advanced and are too clever for there bodies!! I think she was trying to make me feel better!! Next time your LO's are throwing themselves on the floor or banging there head against the door think 'oh they're just advanced'!!
We have been having frequent throwing herself on the floor and banging her hands and feet, sulking, and yesterday's new thing was going into her room and shutting the door on me! Screaming is also a favourite!
I have just been ignoring the throwing herslef on the floor no matter where we are. If we are out I just stand and wait until she has finished not making eye contact. It has started working and her length of time rolling on the floor has decreased.
If she is doing something naughty then I juat do a firm no and move/take what ever it is she is being naughty with.
I am hoping as she gets better at speaking she will calm down soon. I think when she is a bit bigger she will def be a candidate for the naughty seat!!
The other times tantrums start are when he seems to be unable to communicate what he wants and you can see him getting frustrated and then it's all go. if we're out and about he'll throw a wobbley when we have to get back in the pushchair after walking for a bit.
I mostly try to not react to him and just go over and sit and play with one of his toys until he comes back over or sometimes just pick him up and carry on doing bits round the house with him on my hip! xx