what am i entitled too?
hello ladies,
ok, so im 19years old, 7weeks 4days pregnant, and still living at home, although i had planned to carry on living at home with my baby, things have been getting very tense round here lately!!
been arguing alot with my 2 sisters and had a few big rows with my mam, its all getting too much for me now
although i dont really want to move out as im quite scared of doing this alone, i think its best i do, after seeing my mam go through cancer and spinal surgery it is going to be very hard to leave, but i think we would have a stronger mother/daughter relationship if i do move out now, and i need to be independant for my little babba...
if i claim to be homeless would i get a place? or put in a hostel? i start a new job tomorrow so want to stick around a while so i can at least save up a deposit.
any ideas on what would happen? or what support i would be entitled to?
xxx
ok, so im 19years old, 7weeks 4days pregnant, and still living at home, although i had planned to carry on living at home with my baby, things have been getting very tense round here lately!!
been arguing alot with my 2 sisters and had a few big rows with my mam, its all getting too much for me now
although i dont really want to move out as im quite scared of doing this alone, i think its best i do, after seeing my mam go through cancer and spinal surgery it is going to be very hard to leave, but i think we would have a stronger mother/daughter relationship if i do move out now, and i need to be independant for my little babba...
if i claim to be homeless would i get a place? or put in a hostel? i start a new job tomorrow so want to stick around a while so i can at least save up a deposit.
any ideas on what would happen? or what support i would be entitled to?
xxx
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sorry iv not been much help, hope you get something sorted soon, must be horrible for u with all the arguing!!
kel xx
go to www.directgov.uk - it will tell you what your entitled to
You wont be entitled to much until you are 29 weeks, no benefits anyway, not 100% sure if you would get help with rent. If you were made homeless your mum would have to write a letter to the council to say she no longer wanted you at home. You would then be placed on a waiting list. You may be offered a hostel but you would only be entitled to a 1 bedroom place. Any questions feel free to inbox me x
but, im 19 and time for me to be independant but hey... i start my new job tomorrow, and hopefully things will be better if im not in the house 24/7, shes of to australia in a few weeks for 3 weeks, so maybe we both just need a bit of space
only time will tell,
but thanks, all of you for your advie/support
xxxxx
yeah, will probably make a appointment monday
thanks for all the help and advice
xxx
I'm sure there's lots of help available and the other ladies have pointed you in the right direction. But...
Please, please think very carefully before you make the leap and move out.
Your hormones and emotions are all over the place at the moment making you much more sensitive. Add to that your Mum's anxiety for you (she's your Mum and it's her job to worry about you) and it's a recipe for arguments, especially if there are other females in the house too.
However, having a baby is tough, hard work. The most fabulous and amazing thing you will ever do but hard, hard work. When your baby arrives you will never have needed your Mum more.
You say you don't really want to move out, so don't. Have a chat with your Mum about how you're feeling and try and clear the air. I'm sure your Mum wouldn't want you to go either, she will want to make sure her baby and her grand-baby are safe, happy and looked after.
Big hugs.
Mrs B xxx