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Personal Question (TMI) please help me!
Hiya ladies,
Just a really daft and personal question, since we found out that we were pregnant we havent BD... we have been too scared to in case anything went wrong (this is our first baby).
Anyhow we are now nearly 14 weeks pregnant and we still havent...
I want to but im just too scared to...
What are you ladies doing... I cant really ask anyone else about this.
Cheers Ladies for any help on this one!
xxx
Just a really daft and personal question, since we found out that we were pregnant we havent BD... we have been too scared to in case anything went wrong (this is our first baby).
Anyhow we are now nearly 14 weeks pregnant and we still havent...
I want to but im just too scared to...
What are you ladies doing... I cant really ask anyone else about this.
Cheers Ladies for any help on this one!
xxx
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Gate crashing from dia, but I feel the same way! We've had sex three times since I found out and it's been partly through desire but mostly just through guilt for my poor hubby. Probably tmi, but I've been very conscious not to have an orgasm as I'm frightened it might contract my womb and shake my baby out! I'm hopeful that it'll go back to normal after my 12 week scan, but I don't know. Can't really offer any advice or reassurance but I do share your concerns.
Nic xx
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I feela little guilty for my hubby, he is being lovely about it but its been 12 weeks (im nearly 14 weeks but obviously we ned then to make this baby - lol!)... since then not once!
We got a good report from out 12 week scan which is what I told my hubby would be the point when I would feel "safe" and we'd try... but now I just worry and its been nearly 2 weeks since our scan...
XXX
It won't harm your baby in any way and the relaxing effect is good for you and the baby. I understand the feeling nervous thing though. We didn't do it until after 12 weeks as I was nervous after a previous mc at 6 weeks.
If you're in the mood go for it. If not try to discuss your concerns with your other half so they don't feel left out or neglected.
You also don't need to have full sex to please your man why not just stick with foreplay fun
Xx
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Anyway, take your time getting back into it when you feel ready, there's no rush and I'm sure you will just start to feel like the time is right soon enough. Good luck and enjoy!.x.
Anyhoo, hope it happens soon cause we both need it!
You will be fine but only do it when you're really ready so that it doesnt end up being disappointing!
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I know it says on so many official sites that it is okay to do so but I am still worried... I have discussed this withhubby and there is no pressure from him at all. I just feel a little guilty (daft I know) and miss the closeness...
Thanks for being so open about this, its really helped me feel better about it.
XXX
Well we tried... and failed!
I got too worried and had to stop... not good!
Since then I havent even attmepted to try!
Please say im not the only one???
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As long as your hubby doesn't feel like he is being neglected then I think you will be ok.
Try not to get too worried about it though as the more you do the less you will want to BD, if that makes sense.
We have only done it once and I am nearly 16 weeks. I was very aware the whole way through and didn't really relax and enjoy it.
I don't think it'll happen very often for us if at all during pg........
It is so hard to not worry even with what all the books say about it being OK. I just think if something happens after we have done the deed I would always blame that.
As others have said can you be loving in other ways and keep the closeness going?
Does hubby understand the fears? If so, I am sure he'll be more than happy to have some other attention rather than full sex if you know what I mean
Good luck - I do understand how you feel.
xxx