Co-sleeping?
Just emailed one of my friends to ask how she is getting on she had her baby 2 weeks ago and she replied saying now she and the baby are co-sleeping lifes brilliant, hubby is sleeping on an airbed in the nursery and she says when baby needs a feed she just pops out her boob and baby feeds.
I thought you wern't suppost to put baby in bed with you? I used to feed my son propped up in bed and have to admit did fall asleep a few times.
Is anyone else thinking of co-sleeping?
I thought you wern't suppost to put baby in bed with you? I used to feed my son propped up in bed and have to admit did fall asleep a few times.
Is anyone else thinking of co-sleeping?
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I was scared at first but spoke to my hv about it and did everything suggested, such as no pillow! We will all find different ways of doing something! Oh and I did not chuck my husband out of bed! He was in bed with us. Xx
For me there has to be some me and hubby time without baby. Kicking your husband out of bed to make room for teh baby isn't healthy at all. My FIL slept in my husband's bed for the first 3 years as he'd only sleep with his mum. Not on my watch!x
With our son, there have been odd occasions when he has been ill and my hubby has vacated the room and Charlie has slept with me, I think it was when he turned one and starting getting really bad chest infections / asthma, but as a rule, we dont do it. He does get into our bed every morning though, for snuggles, milk and early morning peppa pig.
Artysmam has made a good point, it can work for some people and worst fears about weaning them out of your bed may never come true. And in those early days, I distinctly remmeber feeling that I would do anything just to get the baby to sleep!!
xxx
I have co-slept with my son on and off since he was born and it has never (thankfully) been habitual. He sleeps far less in our bed now - in fact only when he is ill and I want to keep an eye on him (and he needs the closeness).
When you are sleep deprived all you want is sleep - the "rights and wrongs" of co-sleeping go out the window and honestly, my hubby was very grateful to be kicked out into the spare room as having both of us knackered would have affected the relationship a lot more. In fact, I slept apart from hubby for the last 2 months of the pregnancy because I was up peeing every 5 mins and then ds slept in the same room as me for the first 6 months of his life because I was bf'ing. It worked for my husband and I but it is of course a very personal thing.
It is whatever works for the individual. I did fall asleep with my son but my mummy radar never stopped working even when he was next to me - the slightest snort and I was awake. There is something in your brain that just keeps you alert even when you are asleep - if that makes sense.
Just wanted to say that it is perfectly possible to co-sleep safely and that it doesn't have to affect the relationship if both you and your OH want the same thing - sleep!!
C.x
i coslept with my son from the start prety much as it was far safer than me falling alseep holding him, never kicked hubby out once, now at 16 months we cosleep when hes unwell or teething, he settles well in his own bed so has not hindered this in anyway, if this baby needs the comfort of cosleeping i would not hesitate to do it again, dont be suprised if you change you mind ladies,
For me, regardless of how tired I am my baby will not sleep in bed with us. I would be terrified of squashing him and having dealt with several cases like this is my job where babies have fallen out of bed and fractured bones because the "mummy radar" has switched off with pure exhaustion. I understand this is extreme but I guess we are all affected by our different life experieneces.
My husband is 6ft 4 and in his sleep often kicks out or his arm goes flying and i've been unintentionally clobbered and I know neither of us would sleep for fear of hurting the baby. I'd never forgive myself if this could be avoided by putting him in a moses basket or crib at attaches to the bed x