'Naughty' baby - anyone else?
Phoebe is now 9 and a half weeks old and thankfully the colief has settled the colic. She has an immature digestive system and struggled to process lactose, which in turn made her gassy and constipated and caused the screaming. However, she is still so demanding! For example, she has never been a particularly good feeder and she rarely takes more than 3/4 ounces at a feed. But, this week she has decided that unless I am stood up, she isnt feeding at all. She screams her head off until I stand. I have taken her to the doctors because I just can not believe that there isnt something wrong - surely something must hurt and that is what she wants to be stood up? Except that after a thorough examination the doctor could not find a single thing wrong with her. That coupled with the fact that she takes her feed whilst I am sat down when she is still sleepy (at night) led the doctor to tell me that I just have a baby who is just stong willed (read: naughty!). Phoebe is all smiles and giggles most of the time which also leads me to think that the doctor is right - she isnt poorly or in pain, she is just a little bugger! She also always wants to be sat up or walked around - she is only happy when she is being constantly stimulated. As soon as she gets bored she screams so I pick her up (or put her down) and change the activity and she is all smiles again!
My mum finds it all highly entertaining because apparently I was exactly the same as a baby - in my moms words - a complete pain in the bum! Many of my relatives who knew me as a baby keep telling me that Phoebe's fussiness is 'justice' because I was so naughty as a baby. My mom and dad just cant believe how similar she is to me, but I'm so glad because at least I have my parents to help me when I get overwhelmed and panic that she is poorly! Is it just me, or does anyone else have a 'naughty' baby? xx
My mum finds it all highly entertaining because apparently I was exactly the same as a baby - in my moms words - a complete pain in the bum! Many of my relatives who knew me as a baby keep telling me that Phoebe's fussiness is 'justice' because I was so naughty as a baby. My mom and dad just cant believe how similar she is to me, but I'm so glad because at least I have my parents to help me when I get overwhelmed and panic that she is poorly! Is it just me, or does anyone else have a 'naughty' baby? xx
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My Phoebe is generally a good baby but will scam her he'd off as though Iam killing her when she is over stimulated. I am fairly strong willed and won't let her dictate me. I have left her for up to 40 minutes to have her meltdown but as I know she doesn't need feeding/changing and is not in pain she has to learn to get herself to sleep.
If I was you i wouldn't give in to your Phoebe as if she is genuinely hungry then she will feed whilst you are sitting. If you let her get used to doing what she wants you might have her being the same at 9 months!!!!
Good luck
The other problem we have is he is a complete Mummy's boy so even when my husband is about to help out my DS is so 'naughty' with him and just cries- Ive tried saying my hubby is being paranoid but then he passes him to me and he stops instantly. It's horrid for my hubby coz he is a hands on Dad (except in the middle of the night!! :roll: ) and our DD was equally as happy with him as me which he loved- I know it gets him down and it's so draining for me as I seem to be the only one who can sort him out.
I do agree that babies aren't 'naughty' persay as its not calculated or thought out but my God ones like ours are so demanding. What I would say is I've had one of each now- a 'good' and a demanding (my friends who had a demanding baby first time round think its marvellous I'm copping it this time!) and they all come good in the end. They're all so different. It does seem to be the ones that can't get their eating right are the more intense little babies- I'm really holding out hope that my DS will improve with more solid food- maybe they just dont like milk?!!
Sorry for long post... just wanted you to know I totally share your pain
I agree that she hasn't learned to be naughty in the true sense of the word - like you say there is no intention behind it - but she is certainly demanding and knows what she wants! She is a lovely baby in many respects - she smiles and laughs and enjoys playtime. But, she gets bored easily so I am constantly entertaining her. She is fine as soon as I change her activity and back to smiling and laughing again - it is exhausting!! Its hard with the feeding because she cries and makes all of the 'I am hungry' noises but when I try and feed her she throws a tantrum. Yesterday I rocked her to sleep and then exchanged her dummy for the bottle to get her to feed and each time she only took two or three ounces. My mum calls her a 'naughty bum bum'. Im so lucky to have my mum because I was a complete pain in the butt as a baby so my mum can handle anything Phoebe throws at her! xx
My hubby sounds like yours at night and like you my nights are not improving. Last night he was fussing EVERY half hour all night from midnight- we are a bit snappy at each other to be honest but keep talking about it and trying to come up with solutions... none of them working long term yet although the swaddling I do think is still helping (thank you). We have put him in his own room which has helped my hubby sleep more if nothing else?!!
We will definitely be starting rice at 16 weeks- did the same with my DD and she did great on it- I too believe strongly that 6 months is far too late. I CANNOT WAIT. You wait though, we ll get there and it ll make no difference and then I really will be tearing my hair out! He was 12 weeks on weds so not long now... countdown time!
My MIL also sounds similar to yours- she has a knack of getting under my skin- often just by breathing- LOL- but I've learnt through my DD which I think I said on your struggling post that your daughter will always want you over anyone else so just nod and smile and inwardly know you are Phoebe's no.1. Like you my Mums incredible- thank goodness we have them to keep us sane hey??!!
If you ever want to message me over anything please know you can- is that an option on this site? Sounds like we can try to pick each other up!!
Take care hun and keep smiling XX
I too am def NOT waiting till 6 months to wean. I'm really looking forward to doing that! Baby rice here we come.
Speak soon and chin up sweetie.
Zxx