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any other second time mums
worrying about bringing the new baby into the home , i feel like every min with DS is so precious at the moment and keep thinking about how it wont just be the three of us anymore and how theres so many things i wish we could do together before new baby comes
hubby made the point earlier that DS will never remember a time when it was just the 3 of us as he is only 17 months now not sure if that makes me happy or sad ... i think it makes me sad ,
am so excited about our new baby but finding at the moment more concerned with how its going to change things for the 3 of us
anybody else having the same concerns xx
hubby made the point earlier that DS will never remember a time when it was just the 3 of us as he is only 17 months now not sure if that makes me happy or sad ... i think it makes me sad ,
am so excited about our new baby but finding at the moment more concerned with how its going to change things for the 3 of us
anybody else having the same concerns xx
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I also remember feeling like you do with my second. It's hard! I took to writing a diary, which I don't do as a rule, as I needed to express it somewhere. I can remember feeling guilty for both children, DD for no longer being the only child, and the new baby for the fact they would never be the only child, they would never get that attention.
All goes away once baby is born xx
Ps that poem makes me cry every time!
Mummy2grace - I feel your pain on the walking front it will happen! Mia my little girl only took her first few steps at 18months (she was a bum shuffler and expert climber so no need in her eyes) now at nearly 20 months she is walking still not perfect skills but much more confident.
Luc x
Don't worry she will do it all too soon, in the meantime console yourself that dragging a tantrummy walker round town is a lot worse than pushing one in a buggy. Ds hates the buggy but also hates holding hands or having reins on and will sit down in the middle of the pavement rather than co operate so we end up carrying a screaming lunging head butting beast through town...
crumpets this made me giggle as this is exactly how DS is xx
I know they'll both get used to the new baby pretty soon though so as long as they get enough fuss and attention when baby first arrives it will hopefully be ok...
I had the same feelings - i have a little boy who's 3 and bringing a new baby into the family upset me a little bit as it wouldn't be just the 3 of us anymore and i was really concerned that my boy would feel pushed out and ignored.
In actual fact the opposite has happened - we have kept him in his routine and he's doing fine. I'm much more relaxed with baby 2 that i can deal with what my 3 yr old wants and meet his needs quickly before I deal with baby.
The only issue is when i'm breastfeeding my 3 year old always wants to snuggle up or sit on my lap and cuddle. I just make sure that after baby has his feed that i then spend time snuggled up with my 3 year old. It can be a bit of a struggle sometimes but not half as scary/worrying as I thought it would be.
I get really excited when I think of all the fun we will have with the boys as they are growing up. LOVE being a mum of 2.
I am worried about this baby and how it will affect the dynamics of the household, as although it is my 4th, obviously this is going to be my partners flesh and blood. We have spoke about it and he said although ti will have a different place in his heart and yes it will be loved in a different way, he still loves my kids loads and would never treat them any different. Of course I'm not silly and no to some extent he will but thats only natural. He did say he think he will find it hard trying to explain to it when its older why the other 3 are goin away and its not (when the 3 go to their dads) but I said thats when we can have special time with the baby and it will be treated slightly different as the others will be with their dad...
I think you will find once the baby is born there will be no problems and u will wonder what you ever worried about, I know I will hehehe x
I do find myself watching this happy little boy pottering about and just pray that he'll be just as happy when this baby arrives.