FAO of mums of more than one
Hi
I need some advice, my son is nearly 5 and seems to be pushing his luck more than usual since his baby sister arrived, i cant seem to do anything but shout at him, he just doesnt listen, any advice and guidance to what i can do, his step daddy tries to spend more time with him he just seems to want my attention which is difficult when i am breastfeeding caitlin, should i give up breastfeeding and spend more time with him or stick at it. Also worried as he has mentioned he wants to see his real daddy since she has arrived, what do i do help!!! cant stop crying most days now, will i lose my son to his dad?:\?
I need some advice, my son is nearly 5 and seems to be pushing his luck more than usual since his baby sister arrived, i cant seem to do anything but shout at him, he just doesnt listen, any advice and guidance to what i can do, his step daddy tries to spend more time with him he just seems to want my attention which is difficult when i am breastfeeding caitlin, should i give up breastfeeding and spend more time with him or stick at it. Also worried as he has mentioned he wants to see his real daddy since she has arrived, what do i do help!!! cant stop crying most days now, will i lose my son to his dad?:\?
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I've got a 4 year old who is also pushing his luck big time - he's been threatened with the bin a good few times believe me!
I think all we can do is get them involved as possible - Jules helps me change nappies etc and I bf while playing board games, reading stories some times aswell. I know what you mean about bf being hard though - it just seems to take forever doesn't it?
Again, Jules is very involved and knows more about bf than most grown ups - he has even helped me express and insisted on tasting my milk (drunk from a nipple shield I hasten to add!) Has Robbie started school yet or is he due to start in September?
The thought of the loooooong summer holidays is stretching out in front of us now - I'm planning what to do each day and again, getting Jules involved in that. LO will come along - that's when bfing is handy - no worries about endless bottles etc!
Can't advise re his natural dad - I did have this with my dd's but they didn't see their dad cos he was a complete waste of space!
Robbie will love you for being you hon, you will not lose him to his dad, but you may have to share him a little - I know this is hard,but it's probably natural for him to want to know where he came from - I'm sure it will be a phase that he will soon get bored with when he realises that his real base is at home with you all.
Big hugs - go wipe your face and remember as tired and as difficult as it gets (I can hear my 17 yr dd ripping strips off him as we speak for being naughty/not listening yet again!) it is only a phase!
Roll on September.......xxxx
Sorry i cant be much help.
Elaine and boys xx