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Work places less than excited?!
Anyone else suffering with working somewhere that seems to be anything but excited about their pregnancy? I didn;t expect my workplace to be at all 'pleased,' but to at least pretend to be interested and take a vague interest! I am 22 weeks on Friday and have an obvious bump - I am a teacher and yet the school still hasn't told parents/pupils. I am starting to find the funny looks a bit embarrassing! I am a petite size 6 and no longer fit in any clothes - ppl must think I am eating constantly, surely they would think if I was pg they would have been told. I have been asked to 'keep it quiet as long as poss.' Feel a bit odd about that. I go on mat leave in 9 working weeks (because of hols etc). When will they tell them? I had my anomaly scan recently and prior to it had comments like 'gosh, that came round quick' (umm not really...took about 20 wks!) and after it someone said 'so you are actually having a baby?' (No! The bump is all cake and the vomitting is imaginary?!) Getting a bit fed up with living half my life like I am not expecting. A pupil asked me the other day if I would ever have kids and I felt bad lieing to her and for hiding my baby. Grrr. :roll:
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I thankfully dont have that problem, everyone seems quite excited for me, especially the girls I work closely with but saying that my boss is prob happy as it mean I'll be leaving lol!
Surley they can't make you lie?
It's rubbish that your school are being funny about it.
I'm an infant school teacher and my colleagues have all been great so I feel lucky to be so supported! However, my head also said to wait as long as possible to tell parents as I will be leaving my class before the end of the year and she's worried they will be upset about it! I see them every day so am hiding my bump (it's still quite small!) but if someone asked mr out right I certainly wouldn't lie and my head knows that!
I don't think they will be advertising maternity leave until after half term as it's still too early so. Wouldn't worry about that, if they do it too late it's there problem not yours! Maybe talk to your head and ask if you can tell your classes as they have started asking?
Hope people get more excited for you xx
Can you go back and speak to the head about why a replacement isnt being searched for with only 9 weeks to go and how long you are supposed to keep lying for???
I think it is absolutely disgraceful that they are treating you in such a way x
I've worked in an independent school and although the parents have a high expectation, I;m sure they won't be upset about you leaving. If you're still worried why not talk to your head about when they will advertise your mat leave? Have you given them your mat b1 form yet? Once they have that then it's up to them to sort it but I'm not sure if they can advertise your cover without it as you have to give them an idea of when you plan to work until? My head wants to sit down and have a meeting once I've given her my form so we can discuss what I want to do, how long I want to take and what my plans are for when I return.
Will you be going back full time? xx
I think schools are often funny about telling parents early as they love to gossip don't they?! One of our staff went on maternity leave after Christmas and her replacement has had a really hard time as the parents had made their mind before she started that she wouldn't be as good as their previous teacher.
I hope it gets better with your colleagues tho, it can't be nice for you xxx
Her reason is that my class changed teachers in January last year and they didn't get on with the new teacher! We are expecting ofsted any time so think she just wants to keep them sweet! But as soon as someone asks then I'm telling!!
I agree, schools should definitely be more understanding as should parents, they've all done it after all! I think my head is panicking for no reason but ofsted can make things twitchy!!
Just keep being obvious and hope someone asks you! It's one of those things that people don't dare ask until it's blatantly obvious isn't it?! I had a friend ask a lady when her baby was due and the lady said my baby is 2 years old! How embarrassing!!
Keep us posted on how it goes xx
I hadn't really thought about how ridiculous it was until I started reading your thread but you are right, it's crazy isnt it?!
In fact I am going to blab on friday! Decision made!!
You should too! If your head wanted it kept quiet as long as possible then just say you couldn't keep it secret anymore! That's what i'll say to ours! I might even tell a little white lie and say someone asked me! How devious of me
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I have a few gossips in my class, all it'd take would be to tell a mum or two at 8.50am and it'd be common knowledge by 9am! Then once it's out it's too late to go back on and I'll just tell my White lie!
It'll be really nice not to have to pick clothes that hide my bump and be able to talk to my mums about it. Teaching little ones means I see them all the time! I teach Y1, what about you? Xx
I'm off sick, had a terrible night last night with my sickness and just couldn't manage it today! It's my scan later so when I go back Monday I'm thinking about doing my little trick of letting it slip!!
I think that is bad that ur work aren't acknowledging ur pregnancy,T hat is quite rude my husbands friends are like that with me (most are girls) and I find it quite upsetting like they dnt really care. don't worry before we kno it we will b on mat leave and no work for months I can't wait
Summer-bean - Sounds like you have a tough job. It is alwasy hard working with kids. Mine all have a bug at the moment and seem to all be dropping with a temperature which worries me. That is good your work are being supportive. I think women are always capable of making sly comments tho! Has your boss has her own kids? My boss oldy enough has a few!! I know what you mean about friends too... some of my close female friends have totally blanked me since finding out I was pg. One didn't invite me to her bday party because I was pregnant! Hehehe. Time for a social spring clean I say!