Feel like giving up :(
Firstly hi to all u lovely ladies Havent posted here yet as mainly stay in the april forum, had my lo evan on the 19th march tho, so feel better suited posting here with my current worries as you have lo's of a similar age!
Basically evan is 5wks + 2 and ex bf from birth ) im just finding it so hard at the min as seems to want to b on the (.)(.) constantly - hes been like this from birth i keep telling myself itl get better each wk but it just doesnt seem too....just wondering if any1 elses los where/are like this and if they fed less once the 6wk growth spurt was over I really want to ex bf him til weaning, and continue til he goes onto cows milk when hes one......
kim and evan xxxxxx
Basically evan is 5wks + 2 and ex bf from birth ) im just finding it so hard at the min as seems to want to b on the (.)(.) constantly - hes been like this from birth i keep telling myself itl get better each wk but it just doesnt seem too....just wondering if any1 elses los where/are like this and if they fed less once the 6wk growth spurt was over I really want to ex bf him til weaning, and continue til he goes onto cows milk when hes one......
kim and evan xxxxxx
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Hope things get better for you soon.
I feel like this some days, today being one of them! Im just finding it hard not being able to go anywhere or do anything without having one eye on the clock (he wont take a bottle and im too self concious to feed in public) and im SO tired!!
Ive been told by lots of people that things do get easier once they've got past 6 weeks-i'll let you know next week if we see any change!
Im not at the point of giving up yet, im not even sure i could with him not taking a bottle, but it's certainly crossed my mind. The other things that are bugging me is that Max has prolonged jaundice caused by the breastfeeding, he's got ezcema (thought he'd avoid this if i bfed), he also had acne caused by the hormones in my milk and ive already had my first period!!!! Not exactly seeing any benefits of all the hard work!xx
Its so hard this bf malarky isnt it!?! Ive had a guilt day today as my 2 other lo's keep asking why evan eats ALL the time, bless them, there only 4 and 5 and even a trip to the park (a gd hr feed b4 we leave) still ends up with evan crying and being fed and mummy cant play! Im glad im not alone, i do worry hes not satisfied, but hes gaining 8-9oz a wk...so i know hes getting the goods surely! Im hoping and praying that once the 6wk GS is over he settles down (all i ask is 2hrs between a feed, not 2minutes!) I absoloutly adore bfing, i really dont want him to have formula, nothing against it, my other 2 where very healthy ff babies, its just i had my heart ex bfing evan, and im determined to do so!
Todays been a bad day i think, i know deep down the only way id give up is if the milk dried up, so im going to grin and bare it and hope after the next 2wks pass the GS should be over.....im dreading it as im not sure how he can feed anymore than he does...HG the only thing that gets me through this is those first smiles - everytime he does wake at the min is for food, he wont lay there and be calm, hes a total milk monster PB how old is your lo, we must of had them the same week? And that totally sucks about the af...im hoping she stays away for 12month xxxxxxx
He's 6 weeks-born on the 14th, im hoping my af was a random one and it bogs off again!
I think bfing would be much easier than ffing if it wasn't so frequent, hopefully, we'll see the benefits in a few more weeks. I think it would be such a shame to give up now, after doing all this-definately worth holding out i think xx
He is now 5 weeks old. I express 20oz a day for his day feeds and feed myself at night. Its just great as i know he is getting enough and the night feeds now seem shorter. I really believe he was constantly hungry as he kept on falling asleep when feeding.
I have no problems with going from breast to bottle. I feel so much happier as i know he is getting enough food and he seems so much more content.
Its funny u say that about the gulping as evan does that, sometimes he can barely breath as hes drinking..i think he finishes his feed quite quickly and then uses me as a comfort as i can feel after a while he isnt drinking....i may start taking him off and try entertaining him, this is what i did today and it seems to of done the trick - mb i fell into the trap of bfing when he moans, who knows!
Thanx for your advise emma, it is so much reassuring seeing what goes in, but for me expressing would be to time consuming, i have two other lo's who i need to take to school/after school clubs etc, so like the convience of bfing....hoping in the next few weeks it starts to slot into place - well done you though, as ex and feeding after must be hard xxx
It sounds like your doing really well, especially with two other lo's as well..you should be really proud. Oh just thought, I have a sling which I sometimes use for tricky moments with Nina so Im a bit freer for Angelo. She loves it as it gives her that closeness and calms her down. Just wondered if something like that would help Evan to go a bit longer between feeds..just a thought. x
So maybe after the 6 week spurt things do get better-if Max can do it then im sure Evan will too as he was every 2hours until last night!!xx
The growth spurt can be at anytime-6 weeks is just a rough guide. Max was 6 weeks on Saturday, fed like a maniac last week (5weeks) and went 5hours last night (week 6) so he's on his own time schedule too!!
I think if the dummy's worked he may well have been using you for comfort and not actually drinking for the whole time he was on. Max latches, feeds like mad for 5-10mins then he's done. He occasionally comfort feeds, usually at night so i take him off and pop him back to bed.
If he's still getting plenty of wet and dirty nappies then he's getting enough. I think he'd soon spit that dummy out and make it clear he needed food not comfort if he was hungry!xx