just when i thought it couldn't get any worse!Updated
Oh my god-i feel (and look) like the living dead! Max has now decided that sleep is for whimps and he doesn't need any! A month ago i stopped the 4am feed,we'd have nights where we'd make progress and he'd fall back to sleep after an hour or so and nights where he'd be awake from 4am and i'd wait until 6am before getting him up.
The last 3nights he's woken between 1 and 2am and not gone back to sleep-at all! Last night was ridiculous, i somehow ended up in his cot with him-squished against the bars, my whole body in spasm,it was so uncomfortable. Anyway,after 2 hours, he fell asleep (3.45),hubbie gave me a firemans lift out of the cot! Back into my own bed, bliss,just nodding off-he wakes again! 30 minutes after falling asleep! ARGHHHHHH!
We're off to the hv tomorrow,i know it'll be the same shit,different day 'leave him to cry', bla bla bla! Since the weathers been so lovely,he's been playing outside after his tea-he loves the outdoors and it's hard getting him in for his bath,im wondering if it's too much excitement-were going to try quiet time for an hour before bed tonight-wish us luck!xx
[Modified by: p.bob on 06 May 2010 14:19:00 ]
The last 3nights he's woken between 1 and 2am and not gone back to sleep-at all! Last night was ridiculous, i somehow ended up in his cot with him-squished against the bars, my whole body in spasm,it was so uncomfortable. Anyway,after 2 hours, he fell asleep (3.45),hubbie gave me a firemans lift out of the cot! Back into my own bed, bliss,just nodding off-he wakes again! 30 minutes after falling asleep! ARGHHHHHH!
We're off to the hv tomorrow,i know it'll be the same shit,different day 'leave him to cry', bla bla bla! Since the weathers been so lovely,he's been playing outside after his tea-he loves the outdoors and it's hard getting him in for his bath,im wondering if it's too much excitement-were going to try quiet time for an hour before bed tonight-wish us luck!xx
[Modified by: p.bob on 06 May 2010 14:19:00 ]
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Hope things get better for you and the HV can be more helpful when you go see her, and good luck for tonight! x
I know that there will be a solution out there for you and I so hope you find it soon. In the meantime, any time you need to offload, you know where we are.
Lots of love and sleepy vibes to both of you. x
I had to leave Riley to cry to get him to be able to self-settle and re-settle himself. It was really hard at the time and I still have to do it now occasionally which I still find really hard. I remember when I dropped his night feed that it was still quite a while before he slept straight through, I just gave him water when he woke.
Hope you get somewhere with the new HV and the new techniques she's going to talk you through. Have you been on thebabywhisperer.com before? They've got forums aimed at different sleep techniques so you may find some people on there who are going through the same thing. x
I am never asking for help again, I'm appauled! X
edited to say that i'm also assuming that max isn't capable of getting to and from his room to urs (still in cot at our lo's age i would think) so even if her literature was slightly tangeable it would be irrelvant to ur situation as u have no issue of keeping max in his room by shutting the doors, he acn't get to the doors in the first place...grrr! xx
[Modified by: WoW Baby on May 06, 2010 04:48 PM]
We've found something that works for us-oh sits in maxs cot from 4am-sounds insane but he's an early riser anyway and max is up at 5.30 so it's only an hour and a half, he goes straight back to sleep and at least were all getting the rest we need xx
WoW Baby, 'reasonable chastisement' is legal, which does include smacking. Hitting with an implement and/or leaving a mark are usually considered unreasonable but it tends to be up to a court in serious cases. In any event, I think a smack would be counterproductive in this situation, and doesn't apply to p.bob's situation at all!
I am so sorry your hv is being so useless, hun. Can you talk to your GP instead? It really is unacceptable that you are getting so little and such inappropriate support. Big hugs. x
I feel that we've made progress with max, he's more settled, I know he's never going to be a great sleeper, I don't think there's anything my gp can say to help-we've kind of figured it out ourselves for now anyway, but I really am considering seeing him to make a complaint.
The rope technique said to tie the rope leaving enough slack so that the door could open but the childs head couldn't fit through-my god, ropes and gaps in doors, i feel like crying actually, I would never EVER dream of doing anything like that and smacking a child who tries to climb into bed with you?!! I'm just horrifiedx
hmm, slack rope and gaps in doors sound slike a disaster waiting to happen! also could u imagine if there was a fire? u'd have to untie a load of rope to get to ur lo! i dread the thought!