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Nightmare bedtimes! Any advice?
Hello ladies
Hope all your bubbas are well! Looking so cute in the photostream
I have a slight problem with my little lady and was wondering if anyone has the same or any ideas. I'm at a bit of a loss! You might have read I'm trying to move her bedtime forward as she refused to go to bed before 11pm before. I am managing to get her off to sleep at the moment anytime between 9pm and 10.30pm but she really really refuses and actually goes kind of nuts! During the daytime she goes to sleep with absolutely no intervention at all.. If I lay her down when she seems tired she'll move around a little and grumble just a tad and then drops off no problem, no crying etc. But at nighttime.. uff! She's like one of those dolls that you lay down and it's eyes close, except in this case you lay her down and she screams blue murder! She's obviously tired too.
Anyone elses' bubba only play up at night to sleep? Did anyone find a "cure"? Also, I'm wondering if to try putting her to bed EVEN earlier.. see if that makes a difference?
Anyway, if anyone has any ideas would be wonderful! If not, share your woes
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Hope all your bubbas are well! Looking so cute in the photostream
I have a slight problem with my little lady and was wondering if anyone has the same or any ideas. I'm at a bit of a loss! You might have read I'm trying to move her bedtime forward as she refused to go to bed before 11pm before. I am managing to get her off to sleep at the moment anytime between 9pm and 10.30pm but she really really refuses and actually goes kind of nuts! During the daytime she goes to sleep with absolutely no intervention at all.. If I lay her down when she seems tired she'll move around a little and grumble just a tad and then drops off no problem, no crying etc. But at nighttime.. uff! She's like one of those dolls that you lay down and it's eyes close, except in this case you lay her down and she screams blue murder! She's obviously tired too.
Anyone elses' bubba only play up at night to sleep? Did anyone find a "cure"? Also, I'm wondering if to try putting her to bed EVEN earlier.. see if that makes a difference?
Anyway, if anyone has any ideas would be wonderful! If not, share your woes
xxxxxx
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Maybe try earyler as they do seem tougher to get to sleep if too tired don't they!
I'll be watching this with interest as i want to get madam to go off in the day would like her to go in her cot sometimes!
Oh she goes to sleep between 8.30 and 9.30 mostly but does seem to get really upset about 5-6pm like she needs to go bed but then thats too early really, would be impossible to do that everynight cos of dd1's clubs and tea time!
Sorry i realise i've been no use whatsoever! Xx
We've also reserved one of the tunes on the mobile for bedtime only. I play that when she goes into her cot, and after about a week it was sending her to sleep quicker each day.
Our woes at the moment are the early hours of the morning. Last night she woke at 3am, 4am, 5am and 5.30am and was wide awake by 6am so we got up. She isn't hungry as I can pop the dummy in her mouth and she goes straight back to sleep. She only actually cried briefly at 3am last night, at the other times she was cooing and wriggling. It is getting darker in the mornings now, so it was still dark at 3am and 4am and it wasn't the light that was waking her. It's just so annoying as I'm sleeping on her bedroom floor at the moment and it keeps waking me up!
I'm going to try and bring this forward to just after her 9pm bottle over the next week, just worried she'll get up earlier or in the night. Although she went down at 10pm last night and has woken up a few times this morning, stretched and gone back to sleep and doesn't seem the slightext bit interested in her morning bottle yet!
He never used to settle until 11ish but was getting so over tired that it used to take hours to settle him. We now start the bedtime routine at 630!! Still takes some time but compared to the evenings we used to have its amazing! x
I was wondering whether she was getting too tired and I was leaving it too late. Tonight I can't test the theory as I have to be somewhere at 7pm but tomorrow I'll be trying to get her into bed no later than 8pm. See what happens. I think any earlier than that just isn't realistic as she has a bottle anytime between 6.30 and 7.30 and I always bath her before bed.
1st-timer, I've noticed that bedtime doesn't seem to have an affect on what time she wakes up for feeds or finally gets up in the morning. Corynn wakes up at 10am, not a moment before! She does have a feed around 5 and stays up until 6am and has had a dreamfeed at 11pm.
Mrs Bear: uff, sounds terrible! I moan because she usually starts making noises and moving around at about 2am for half an hour or so but I put her dummy in and she drifts back off. Must be awful to have to do that from 3am onwards! I'll be shutting up now about my woes!
We'll get there ladies... let's keep each other updated if anything works!
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We have nightmare afternoons mitxi but really good nights & mornings (touch wood). It will probably all go wrong next week though as we are going away for a week. Anyway this is what we do, hope it helps. Its sort of a military operation but its working:
- Feed is due at 7.30pm but I give him half at 6.50-7pm then bath.
- After bath i give him a massge with olive oil & take him into our room in the dark, night light on only & he has the rest of his milk.
- In his basket by 7.40pm
- He settles straight away with dummy in his mouth. We also have a slumber bear, its an absolute god send. Google Prince Lionheart slumber bear. It plays differnt sounds to help a baby settle. Ellis loves the heart sound which is meant to sound like what they would hear in the womb. I also read him a story ( difficult with night light!). So with the mixture of dummy, slummber bear & my voice he is asleep but 8.10pm at the latest.
- Dream feed at 11pm
- He wakes for feed at 4ish. Back to sleep with dummy & slumber bear playing.
- I then wake him up at 7.30am to start the day. Feed him straight away.
- Then cuddles, wash & dressed followed by tummy time on his play mat.
- The in his cot in his room i put him down at 8.50am & he is asleep by 9.05. I leave him to sleep until 11am.
I would advise all to invest in a slumber bear, it was the best ??30 I have ever spent, haha.
I just need to sort the afternoons now as he gets over tried by being so nosey when we are out & about.
Hope it gets easier Mitxi xxx
[Modified by: babymay2010 on July 29, 2010 11:25 AM]
[Modified by: babymay2010 on July 29, 2010 11:26 AM]
So our day is structured by the EASY routine (eat/activity/sleep/you time) but I am baby let in terms of how long he sleeps for. But he is pretty predicable now.
Last week we had three days in a row when we were out and about and in the car A LOT and all three nights he was a nightmare to get to sleep. One evening he was awake from 5-10pm and nothing could get him to sleep. Routine is KEY as far as I am concerned. I try and plan activities in the morning so that his long afternoon nap isn't disturbed.
I can HIGHLY recommend the Baby Whisperer book.
Good luck hun x
Bryony & Sam (14+6)
He wakes at 6.30am and I get up with him - whereas before I would do everything in my power to get him to sleep longer so he would lie in!!!
As foxinsocks says I never let him go longer than 90mins/2 hrs in the day without a sleep.
I try and get him to have a good 2 hr lunchtime nap and then he is not as sleepy in the afternoons.
Between 2.30 and 7pm he will only have one (sometimes two) power naps of 15mins. I bath at 6 - 6.30pm and massage his tummy as a wind down, he then feeds and has a quick cuddle and story and then he crashes. For us the key is the afternoon if he has to much sleep he will not go down at 7pm as he is not tired enough......
we only cracked it this week and no once he is down at 7 I don't get him back up - it has meant earlier mornings though!!!! xxxx
I do find she gets really irritable around 6pm and so often it's a relief to do bath-time as she instantly calms down then - so I put it down to her getting over-tired at that time of day so bed time at 7/7,30pm is probably about right for her really.
Sorry probably not helped at all lol - but might be worth trying earlier bedtime now and get her in the habit? Lo still wakes up once at night between 3-5am but goes straight back to sleep so I don't feel quite so sleep deprived by that xx
So, as from tomorrow we'll be starting an earlier night routine to see if that helps. If not, then we can just deduce that she's a little madam (but I still love her).
For those of you who have said you get LO up early, how do you keep them awake without them getting grumpy? As I mentioned, she won't stay up for longer than an hour at 5 or 6am and then sleeps until 10!!
I'm sure an earlier morning might be key for us too
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Bryony
So tomorrow it's early to rise, early to bed for my little lady!
I forgot to say, somebody bought me the Baby Whisperer and I did read a few chapters. Since then, I've been letting her put the patterns and it's pretty much as the baby whisperer says anyway and she has a pretty E.A.S.Y pattern. I did find the first chapter or two incredibly useful though for my first few weeks when I really had no clue at all what to do with a baby. It helped me to determine a basic pattern which we're still using and which she is comfortable with. Thanks again for all your ideas, much appreciated!
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Many thanks,
Flutterby
Can I ask does your lo always fall asleep a bit when being fed? And do you feed her and then bath her and then put her to sleep?
Reason I ask is I was feeding Leo, he would be really tired after but I would then bath him which would really wake him up and then he didn't want to go to sleep! Solution I've cone up with is I make the bedtime bottle a bigger amount than usual. I feed him till he's happy, then he has a bath and I take him in the bedroom, making sure lights are off and curtains are closed and get him ready for bed. I then feed him some more. I've found this way helps as the feeding right before bed makes him sleepy and by splitting the bottle into 2 sessions he ends up having more than normal which sees him through the night. I start the process at 6.30and by 7.30 he is fast asleep. Whacked our from the bath and so much milk!!! He now sleeps through until 6am. I've always made surei put him down when he's awake too. I don't rock him to sleep or anything. I kiss him goodnight and leave the room. This was hard work to begin with as had to keep going back in but now he goes straight to sleep. I'm very lucky he's taken to it so quickly though
Hope u have luck with the earlier bedtime x
Thats a really good idea arlik, I spilt the bottle pre & post bath like you do but I didnt think to put more in it. I will try this soon & see if its gets him through the night xxx
Well ladies, last night I managed to get her sleeping around 7pm even though I was out and about. She woke up about 9pm for a feed then refused to go back down until around 10.15pm but she wasn't as hysterical as usual and just needed a small cuddle. Then I had to keep coming back to her to give her a dummy because I could see her moving around a lot on the monitor but not yet crying. Then she had a feed at 4.30am (so 7.5 hours after last feed), and this morning we both got up at 8.30! She's just drifting off now at 10am nearly for a nap. Feels good! Hopefully this means tonight she'll go down between 7 and 8pm without problems. Tonight I'll start the night routine at around 7 I think....
Thanks for your wonderful ideas and reading my woes!! I'll keep you posted tomorrow
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I'd love her to be more cuddly to be honest but she really hates being held most of the time! x