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tracey_1981tracey_1981
in My baby was born in May 2010
i know this is stupid Erin is only 8 weeks old, but im so depressed on how i look, i feel so fat, look terrible and i cant cope feelig like this. Joining slimming world to see if it helps, but im now thinking about not going out and socialising as i feel they are judging me. Its affecting my relationship now, i have lights off before i get changed n dont want anything phsyical, which is so not me. sorry to moan
tracey

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  • sophiearchiephoebesophiearchiephoebe
    awwwww tracey i feel your pain!i feel fat too!i hate trying to fit in my old clothes and feeling like they will never look right again!everytime i try to diet or even eat less i fail!i had all these good intentions about what i would eat and how much i would exercise but its just not happening!grrrr! have you tried buying some new clothes?i bought a couple of new tops and some new leggings and a dress for the 2 weddings iv got coming up and they make me feel slightly better as i have shopped for things that suit my current shape.

    sending hugs!

    sophie
    xxxxxx
  • Rainbow78Rainbow78
    Hiya hun x know how you feel, i'm in the same boat image Had a CS 7 weeks ago and I still cant bare to look at my tum, its awful image My two boys were delivered naturally. Nothing fits me, every morning is dire trying to find something I look half decent in. I dont know if i should buy a couple of things as Sophie suggests, but then i feel like thats accepting this is my shape now? I keep meaning to join ww but havent been able to make it to any meetings. Sorry nothing positive to add, just wanted to let you know that your not alone x I feel your pain, literally!! xx Sharon xx
  • Pumpkin-PiePumpkin-Pie
    i feel the same way, i hate hubby touching my tummy and freeze up during sex. I just feel disgusting and worried that Isobel will be ashamed of the way i look when she's older image My HV has given me a form which gives me 12 free weeks at Slimming World so Im gonna be going with my mum. Bit nervous about that but hopefully it will be ok as my mum is coming and i live in a small town so know a lot of women who already go x
  • apple-pie-73apple-pie-73
    Oh god halleluya that it's not just me! Sorry hon, that doesn;'t help you but I know what you mean - I just feel so unattractive and "not me". I stupidly thought I would be back in my clothes quicker, and instead I had to buy some cheapo clothes in a size bigger to tide me over and I just feel frumpy and fat image I had a c-section but have been bleeding on and off for the last 6 weeks so that doesn't help me to feel particularly fresh and nice either aaaghhhh!

    Good on you for joining slimming world - I haven't got the enthusiasm at the moment, am hoping a miracle will happen and it will all fall away lol.

    Chin up honey, you're not alone and we'll all get there - you'll probably be the first to lose the weight as at least you're being pro-active about it so well done you xxx

  • tigerlilyrachtigerlilyrach
    i am in the same boat. i have low self esteem anyway, and now coming out of hiding and all my friends who are beautiful, thin and wear lovely clothes want to come and see felix, and when they leave i just sit and cry cuz i feel so fat!!! ive put on two stone overall and i dont think i look that bad in the mirror, but when i see photos, again i just cry cuz i look so fat!!! i cant afford any new clothes either so i look like a complete tramp!

    my hubby doesnt help either. he's very matter of fact and quite robotic about feelings and stuff. when i get upest (which is everyday now) he just shouts at me saying what do i expect, ive just had a baby. i tried dieting a few weeks ago, but i got so down on top of everything else, i was in bed crying so i cant even diet at the minute. sorry to moan and take over your post!! your not alone hun xxxxx
  • minieggsminieggs
    Sorry to hear you're feeling like this, i think going to the slimming club is a great idea as will help you to feel better and you will meet people who will give you support and certainly won't be judging you x
  • tracey_1981tracey_1981
    as you girls are so supportive and lovely, lets do a a yummy mummy fit club, weigh in and inch loss, ill start on thursday with slimming world, let do it together yeah! target by next week 3lb to lose, good luck my may mummies xxx you have all made me feel so much better xx
  • sophiearchiephoebesophiearchiephoebe
    good plan!il aim for 3lb too then!iv just ate a galaxy ripple though so maybe il wait til the morning to weigh myself (and take all my clothes off and have a poo too haha tmi!!) then il write down the weight and plan to lose 3lb!good, i like a plan!x
  • golden_girlgolden_girl
    I can so relate. Got a wedding reception of one of my best friends to go to next Saturday & I would never let her down but the thought of trying to find something to wear feels overwhelming.
    I pretty much feel whats the point buying a nice dress, getting my hair done etc... cos no matter what I do i'm gunna look awful.
    To make matters worse my 3 best friends are all size 8-10's but constantly talk about diets, food & how fat they are - I just keep thinking they must think i'm morbidly obese, cos I'm a generous size 16 post-pregnancy.
    Really gets me down, I also try to avoid physical contact & really can't see what hubby see's in me....
    GG xx
    :cry:
  • tracey_1981tracey_1981
    that target is for me x
  • tracey_1981tracey_1981
    awww hun, buy a nice dress n get hair done and im sure you will look good hunny xxx lets all encourage each other xxx
  • littleminxlittleminx
    I relate to what you are saying!I guess I was naive in thinking the weight would come off quicker...wasnt expecting to have a c sec which hasnt helped but just hate what I look like in the mirror naked yuk! and as for the stretch marks that have appeared after giving birth I look like a tiger loaf on my legs and tum. Im just glad maxi dresses are in this season as they can cover things up even bought some super pants to try to hold bits in but this hot weather and the pants dont mix!
    I would recommend if you have someone that can watch your lo to go and get your hair done, my mum booked me in and it made me feel human again! hope you're doing ok love Luc x
  • Pumpkin-PiePumpkin-Pie
    hey sweets, hope ur feeling better. I was overweight to begin with but was talking to my HV about feeling horribly fat and she filled in some forms which gives me 12 weeks free at SW. I dont know what ur BMI has to be to do it but its really worth asking! x
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