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Tiny rant so I don't kill hubby... :lol:
...I just want him to get off the friggin laptop and help me out a bit! lol! I've just missed the programme I wanted to watch (Gleeeeeeeeee!!!!!!) so I could get the kitchen sorted after cooking dinner, and then go to bed at a decent time because I've finally caught the cold everyone's got and it's knocked me for six. (my glands are mahooosive, I should probably knit them separate hats!) He managed to say "Why are you doing that while your programme's on?" from the living room, to which I replied that I forgot I hadn't done it and I wanted to go to bed at half 10! Now I'm drinking my cold tea and having to rant on here or else I'll yell at him, and that's no good... grr, stewed tea is not nice, but it's the only sort he makes!
How come nothing changes for men when they have babies? I know it does sort of, but not really, I mean, EVERYTHING in my life is different, even going for a wee or having a shower (and looking down at the wreck that is me, lol!) and it's all fitted in between baby crying or needing something. Blokes just carry on regardless! This weekend, he drank himself silly both nights with his dad, then promptly slept off his hangover for hours on end the morning after. I'm so happy I can have a drink now and then, but I can't physically spend time having a hangover because Jak needs feeding and changing and winding and playing with. (which I don't begrudge AT ALL by the way) How come hubby always says, "Oh love, I'll do that!" and then bloody doesn't? Tsk, men!
Night night girls, I'm off to attempt to get better! x x x
How come nothing changes for men when they have babies? I know it does sort of, but not really, I mean, EVERYTHING in my life is different, even going for a wee or having a shower (and looking down at the wreck that is me, lol!) and it's all fitted in between baby crying or needing something. Blokes just carry on regardless! This weekend, he drank himself silly both nights with his dad, then promptly slept off his hangover for hours on end the morning after. I'm so happy I can have a drink now and then, but I can't physically spend time having a hangover because Jak needs feeding and changing and winding and playing with. (which I don't begrudge AT ALL by the way) How come hubby always says, "Oh love, I'll do that!" and then bloody doesn't? Tsk, men!
Night night girls, I'm off to attempt to get better! x x x
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I agree that nought much has really changed for him compared to me. My body is still all over the place and because of bf is not my own....nearly been physically different for 1 year now. My emotions are "flexible". I am removed from work and social occasions such as cinema, drinks on the town etc (which I love, cos i love being a mummy) that I took for granted as part of my life. He has cut down on nights out from twice. Week every week to a couple of times a month
Mmmm seemed to be having my own rant. Oops!
MJx
ps I love it and don't miss my old life at all, just wish he appreciated what I have given up
Although Sophie is the best thing to have ever happened, o/h and I have fell out SO many times since she was born. I hate it.
He will come in from work and ask why I haven't hoovered, dusted etc and when I say I was busy with Sophie he will say "I cant understand what you do all day".
On Sunday he looked after Sophie in the afternoon while I went out for a couple of hours of "me" time (which he suggested). I came home and the little bugger (Sophie) had been asleep afternoon. But he had been on the laptop and watching telly so I still had all the bottles to do and tea to make when I got back. So I happen to yawn and say I'm tired and he said "you should sleep when Sophie sleeps". I hate it when he says that (and everyone else who does), he obviously didnt know Sophie normally only sleeps for 10-15 minutes at a time and the only time its more is if we are out in the car or with the pram.
Another one I get is "you shouldn't spend so much time at your mothers - you live here now ". I go to my mams on a Monday and Wednesday afternoon when o/h works til 830pm, she lives half an hour away. So I am expected to stay here all day every day when I dont have any friends or family where I live, even though I have taken washing etc with me and done it there.
His family, who live round the corner, dont even come to see Sophie, she sees them for an hour on a Sunday when we go out for dinner with them. But its a sin that I go to my mams rather than them coming here (bearing in mind my mother cant drive, is in bad health and my sister who has the car works full time!).
Mrs A, I also got the poo thing the other day when once in a blue moon o/h went to change her!!! Men eh???
Thank god for this forum and you lovely girls. Sorry for gatecrashing your post Em!!!
Nici xxx
Since o/h got in from work he has had Sophie, bathed her gave her bottle and put her to bed. He is going to sleep in Sophie's room tonight with her so I can get a decent sleep in our bed...I am going up shortly
Nici xxx
I've worked out what it is that's driving me mad - it's the details! Like, he doesn't check the nappy meets Jak's legs, so it leaks once he's gone to work, or he doesn't do up the little popper at the top of his sleeping bag and doesn't get why he even needs to (duh - so it doesn't hurt Jak's skin, he's a BABY!!!) I guess I'm just feeding my own insanity by having to obsess over the teeny details because I know he won't! Having a baby means thinking about an awful lot of scenarios that may never arise, and also thinking about them first, not second!
I do reckon you should go away for your weekend thing though, how often are you gonna get the chance and it will do you the world of good! Let your hubby see that he physically wont be able to sit on the laptop the whole time as he does actually have a son!
My o/h has this thing about me "spoiling" Sophie, although totally contradicts himself when we are trying to get her to sleep by saying "put something on her dummy"!! If thats not spoiling her and getting her used to something then I dont know what is!
He is now playing on his X Box...I'm off to bed!! Nite
Nici xxx