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We are trying to get Jen down in the evening a bit earlier so that hubs and I have some time together. She gets grumpy and tired around 6.30-7 so i figured that is a sign that this is bedtime. I tend to eaither bathe her or wash her face at this time, then change her into her night clothes in our room (dimmed lights) then feed her and rock her and sing to her. Well thats all well and good, except that when she finishes feeding, she either cries or looks at me and says 'what game and we going to play now mummy?!' We can do this quiet settling routine until 11 when she has another feed and beyond that sometimes til 1am. She sometimes snoozes in our arms, but never for long.
We're going a little bit insane, she looks exhaused and we just dont know what to do with ourselves.
Any ideas?
Em x
We're going a little bit insane, she looks exhaused and we just dont know what to do with ourselves.
Any ideas?
Em x
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I cant remember, are you bf or ff? Is she getting enough at this feed to satisfy her to go to sleep? I only ask as this was our problem with Brody a few weeks back until i realised he wasnt going down and staying because he was still hungry. (Now we just have to deal with the wind problem!!)
Oh and the other thing I have found is the day time nap. If I cant get Brody to nap in the afternoon then I find it so much harder to get him down at night. Thats when he would go on a sleep strike!
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Also, we don't leave him to cry as such, but he does shout a bit before he settles himself. If he gets at all close to crying, I go in and pat his back and shush him until he's calm again. He's learning, albeit slowly, to settle himself. He is the same at nap time, he needs a little bit of patting and shushing before he'll calm down enough to settle to sleep. It's as though he's indignant at being put to go to sleep, yet his eyes are closing at the same time! Bless him! x x x
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We never tried a set routine with G and just let him fall into one himself which luckily worked for us as he is a really laid back baby. He now goes down at 10-10.30pm and sleeps until 7-8am. Ideally I'd like to start getting him down at 9ish but I'll be honest I'm just delighted he's sleeping through. He is 13 weeks though (he was prem but his due date was end Nov!) and has been sleeping through for a fortnight. Hubby and I do keep him entertained from 7 onwards so he is tired after his last bottle.
Hope you get it sorted xx
amanda
1) He feeds every three hours during the day
7am
10am
1pm
4pm
6pm - 7oz
bath
7pm - rest of 7oz feed
BED
normally a small feed at 4amish
We have done this for just over a week and i am very strict about the three hour feeding - then i keep him amused until an hour before his next feed then i have abit of a fight for the daytime nap.
If he wakes up an hour earlier or an hour later then i just move the days routine an hour forward or back.
As soon as we put him in his bed at night he drops straight off - never crys.
It has truly transformed our lives and he fell into this routine really easily - it was almost immediate though we had 2 bad nights but even they were 100% better than previous. I really think the key is to cluster feed in the evening really fill them up.
Emilyb you deserve a medal x
Em x
ps, im BF'ing so i guess that makes a difference too...
Wish it was that easy during the day, but we try 3 hour feeds, nappy change session of play till he yawns then nap time. This morning he had just 40 minutes today he was babbling on his play mat I nipped into kitchen came back to find him spark out. I want to get him into habit of napping in his cot but its like he doesnt want to miss anything!
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HJS
Wakes up 8am for a feed - top and tail and change into ther daytime clothes. Then she normally has a morning nap till about 11am
After that she feeds every 2 hrs during the day and either naps or plays in between feeds
Hubby gets home from work at 6 usually straight after a feed and he baths her and puts her in her bedtime clothes
She usually then pretty much sits downstairs with us feeding/burping/napping continuously until 9pm
9pm we take her upstairs - I put her a fresh nappy on and take her into our room for a story and a quiet natter. We give her one final feed - which is usually a big one.
10pm - we put her in her cot in our room and she's either asleep or she drifts off with a dummy if she's still awake.
5am ish she wakes up for a feed and she goes straight back to bed after
8am she wakes up again
xax
we have a 2 year old so things are slighlty manic and we have to obviously stick to his routine a bit as he has bath at 7 and bottle on sofa anf off to bed...
mason is 7 weeks tomoz and i just want to cry as hubby still having to sleep on sofa as we dont have seperate room for baby and he is hard to get off and wakes in night several times etc that we cant seem to think how we can have him come back to bed!!!
my day varies depending on what the night was like - this doesnt help as i never know whats happening!
if he wakes at 8am he will sometimes have feed but depends on when he had last one in night so this morning he had a feed at 5.30 so had most of bottle about 8.30
then he has 2 mins under play mat or i entertain him or toddler then i put him in swing as need to get on
he then usually nods off or dozes around 9/9.30 but wouldnt in cot.
then next feed could be anytime bewteen 11.30 and 12.30
and again next feed between 3.30 and 5
in between this time there are no set naps as i just cant seem to get him down as such, if we are out he naps in car seat, in arms, or when home swing
toddler has nap around 1pm every day for an hour so would love to try getting him down then easier said than done!
thenhe is bathed at 7 and we all sit on sofa for feed - sometimes takes whole bottle others faffs...
i have then tried putting him down for night as sometimes seems sooo tired but if he does go in cot wakes after 10 mins and is wide awake...
so what usually happens is he is down with me and iput in swing about 8ish if grumpy and he may drift off for half hour then again wakes wanting to play etc then gets crying./wingy so between 9.30 and 10 i take him up in our room in dark and feed and then try lay him down, but basically he wont go off however tired so i have him in bed with me until he is asleep then move him - or sometimes i conk out and wake in night with him in bed (not good)
if he goes off about 11pm then he will wake around 2ish then again 5.30ish and when ever he wakes takes a good hour and half before he is off - also have noticed he is waking and trumping etc and cries out and gets upset and i try dummy etc but this goes on for while and he has woken up so have to get bottle to try get him back off...
any tips please please help!!!
i feel like i just dont kknow what to do and as we wont have a seperate bedroom until we build it which is ages away i need to get things settled so hubby cancome back in bed!!!
oh he is bottle fed and i make 6oz bottles up sometimes takes all others 4/5oz
xxxxxxx