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baby blues/formular feeding/anyone else feel like this?
Hi ladies
Zoe is 4 days old today and is a little star ! Love her so much!
I am suffering a little with the baby blues. Very tearful, feel a little 'empty', kind of like I have suffered a loss, like a break up or something. Not all the time, just some of the day. One min I am happy and relaxed, the next min I feel heartbroken and teary.
I am also feeling so so guilty about not breast feeding. I tried and tried in hospital for the first 2 days, I wasn't doing very wellwith it, Zoe wouldnot latch on, we were getting no colostrum out with a pump, both of us were getting very frustrated so we made the decision to formula feed. Zoe loves her formula, and is feeding really well. But my milk started to come in and is now drying up, and the guilt is killing me ! I feel I am not giving her the best start.
Sorry, post sounds a bit depressing, most of the time I am fine, and I am LOVING being a mum, my little angel is AMAZING and I am getting lots of Joy, just wondered if anyone feels a bit like I am?
Stace x
Zoe is 4 days old today and is a little star ! Love her so much!
I am suffering a little with the baby blues. Very tearful, feel a little 'empty', kind of like I have suffered a loss, like a break up or something. Not all the time, just some of the day. One min I am happy and relaxed, the next min I feel heartbroken and teary.
I am also feeling so so guilty about not breast feeding. I tried and tried in hospital for the first 2 days, I wasn't doing very wellwith it, Zoe wouldnot latch on, we were getting no colostrum out with a pump, both of us were getting very frustrated so we made the decision to formula feed. Zoe loves her formula, and is feeding really well. But my milk started to come in and is now drying up, and the guilt is killing me ! I feel I am not giving her the best start.
Sorry, post sounds a bit depressing, most of the time I am fine, and I am LOVING being a mum, my little angel is AMAZING and I am getting lots of Joy, just wondered if anyone feels a bit like I am?
Stace x
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Becky & Heidi 9 days old xxx
I really feel there is too much emphasis put on bf, and for mummy's like me and you who were unable to do it we end up feeling terrible cos we can't. I think it's nice if you can but the posters all over hospital just shove it down your throat and made me feel worse at a time I already felt like a failure!
Sorry for waffling, just please don't let it bother you, it was the start of a downward spiral for me and I know exactly how you feel. Your daughter is getting food and that's all that matters, you made a big decision to put her on formula, which shows what a brilliant mummy you are.
Sam, Harrison & Daniel
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As the other ladies have said BF is really pushed and there is a lot of guilt associated with it but you have done the right thing for you and your baby. Nobody else can make the decision for you, you've made it and it is right - it means that your baby is getting what she needs and is happy. The stress that can go with breastfeeding is astronomical and something you really can get your head around until you've tried it.
You are doing a fab job and as you've said your little angel is happy. Keep doing what you are doing, talk to the people around you for support and come on here to vent, rant, ask questions whenever you need to. As you know from the due in forum everyone is so supportive and the advice and encouragement that I have had from the ladies on here and in Baby has really kept me going.
It's not easy but we will all get there in the end!
Sending much love and good wishes!
SP xx
I ws happier knowing the amounts he was taking. He is great now a right guzzler even tho he made an apperance in oct 4 weeks early.
I felt teary and still do now thought i was suffering with pnd but its just lack of sleep now that makes me feel down.
Socks- I didnt cry when my boy was born and felt guilty too but i love him with all my heart. I did take a few days to bond with him properly after spending time with him .
xxx
MW came today and wants me to see the dr as she is concerned I may have a bit of PND coming on ! Bit scared, but its so early, so hopefully I can get some help and nip this in the bud! xx
I have to say I haven't had any of the day 3/4 blues (in fact I was so happy everything went well compared to my son's birth, and in shock for about a week that she was here 3 weeks early lol!) but I have struggled with bf-ing and I have to top up and have had several moments of upset and guilt that I've not managed to do any better for her. Tbh I've come to the conclusion that so long as you try to do your best for your child thats all that matters - whether its bf-ing or formula feeding.
I didn't cry when she was born either.. I cried later on when high on gas & air after stitches but that was out of relief that everything went ok and I could hold her and hadn't passed out due to blood loss.
Hormones are stupid thingsi and I'll be glad when mine have died down.. I'm fed up of feeling teary over stupid things!
Hope your dr can help and you feel better soon
As for the bf if you feel that strongly about it do you have a pump? would you like to try & express now its milk & not the thicker colostrum. You may feel like its drying up but you'll be surprised how much you might get. (my baby is 7 weeks & im still leaking milk even though ive not expressed for weeks) I am so far away from the breast is best brigade who ram it down your throat, im not trying to apply pressure, its just an idea even 1 or 2oz may help you feel better. I tried to combination feed our little man it did not work out & i did feel bad for a while but ive gotten over it now as he is thriving on formula, much happier & i did not even try with my others. The fact that you tried & wanted to is alot to be proud of. Im sure you are just the best mummy & you are all your baby wants right now she knows you, your smell, your voice your touch & thats all she needs. Please hang in there it does get better. xxx
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