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How much does he do?
Just wondering how much your OH's do with your LO's? Mine does play with my little boy but when it comes to feeding, changing, bathing, putting to bed and night feeds he doesnt seem to do anything. He said he would do the night feeds last night and when LO woke up he was down stairs on the computer gaming. and this morning he didnt wake when LO woke up, so here i am again knakcerd. I dont mind doing these things with myh LO but it would be nice if he chipped in now and again. /He does do the cleaning, washing up and cooking most days but i iwould gladly swop the odd time
So what do your OH's do with your LO?
So what do your OH's do with your LO?
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I look after N all day and when OH comes home I prepare the dinner while OH plays with N and they watch Waybuloo together (N loves it! hehe). Then I run the bath, OH brings up N and takes off his clothes, I bathe him, OH puts his night clothes on and bib, I feed him and put him down. Then we take it in turns when N stirs but I do all the night work!
OH has three weeks off for Easter now (he's a teacher) so he'll be doing lots more - he loves it though!
He's only just started going up to settle N if he stirs before we go to bed though...I was doing it all on my own for 5 months!! He could tell I was really knackered so has started doing lots more - He told me he was scared to do it incase N screamed because it wasn't me going in to see him! Crazy!
Anyway, maybe you and your OH can decide on a routine that involves both of you? Also, my OH kept doing all the house work etc thinking it was really helping me - I had to explain that doing the cooking gave me a little break to myself. Just have a sit down together and talk it through. You'll both get there - it is a lot of adjusting!
HTH
Gemma and Noah
I have H all day then when DH comes in he will take over playing and have some daddy time. We both tend to have a sit down when he comes in before bedtime routine starts. Bedtime routine is daddys domain in this house, he does the bath , dress bottle, occassionally i help so i am not missing out but usually i leave him to it whilst i make dinner ( pointless trying to eat whilst H is still up as he gets tired and cranky and just wants cuddles from abt 6 on and bedtime is 6.30 to 7 pm so not long to wait really.
I do any nighttime get ups but on weekends he will take a night off my so i have have a full nights sleep.
This will change when i go back to work, and bathtimes will then be shared as will night time get ups . Thinksits just about finding what works for yourself xx
I actually really like doing what i'm doing, luckily i'm organized however there are sometimes when i could just do with a break.
I do everything round the house too including cooking, ironing, cleaning, etc etc. My husband goes out for work at 7am and gets home around 6.30pm so he can see Ava before she goes to bed but i do the bath/bed routine anyway.
The time he does spend with her is very precious and we definitely make the most of it. She loves her Daddy lots which is lovely.
It won't always be like this, we're taking on more staff for our business to eventually take the workload off hubby and we're moving this year to then relocate business on site so he won't be far away. It's tough but i love being a Mummy and i have my own routine, but like i said i wouldn't mind a break every now & then
He leaves for work by 9am most mornings (7.30am on a Sunday) and doesnt get home till 10pm. We moved bath time to the morning, mainly because I was struggling to bath, dress, feed and get both boys to bed on my own, but also because it means bath time is hubbys time. I help get them in and out and I dress one of them but he does the bath. He hates this and would love to do more but he just cant be here. He hates that he cant do bedtime. He does bedtime 1 night a week - Monday. He would also get up in the night (although the boys are only fed a df at 10.30pm now and I wait till he gets home so he can do one of them) but I wont let him at the moment as im not at work and he is. When I go back to work we will switch mornings (the boys are up at 5.30am) so I get up when im at work and he will get up when im not!
Have a chat with him if youre not happy hun. Im sure he would love to do more but sometimes us mummies have our own routines and daddies come home and just dont know where to start!
HTH
Gemma, Ryan and Alfie 24 + 6
Me and my oh have had some dicussions before though and when we feel something needs to be said we to tend to say it and listen to each other. The answer i got about housework once was as a man they dont see some things such as washing etc and he said i have to tell him when i want him to do it!! And once when i said about helping me more at night oh rightly pointed out he does get up in morning lol...
So after all my waffling- talk to your oh as am sure he will maybe not be aware, think it a man thing! xx
Our routine used to be oh did the bath each night so H could have some daddy time.. But oh does the cooking so going to work, then doing the cooking and H was getting a bit much for him. Now we take turns. If he does the bath i feed him and put him to bed. If i do then he does the other bits so it's fair.
I'm quite rubbish in the kitchen apart from cooking and puree'ing harry's veggies so it's best for all of us if oh does it. Although i have been known to do a quick tea of jackts pots or spag bol if oh is tired. He often does a pasta bake so we just reheat it another night.
On the weekends so we both get one lie in a week oh will get up and feed him one day and me the other. He still never hears him in the night though so i'm up in the night if h needs a dummy run!
Dx