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Fed up with OH
Anyone else getting fed up with their oh? He usually does the 1ish am feed then je gets a food few hrs before work and I do the rest. But today harry woke up 15 mins later and refused to do it. So muggins here has to be awake all night. What a idiot. Last wk harry was awake from two am and he saw how shattered I was and how hard it was to survive the day, and then he goes and does this at the beginning of the week!
We keep snapping at each other as we are tired too. What happened to the happy couple we once were?!
D and H x
We keep snapping at each other as we are tired too. What happened to the happy couple we once were?!
D and H x
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men aye!
xxx
men aye!
xxx
I keep snapping at oh too as I am so grumpy when I'm tired lol!!
Anyway enough moanin from me lol!! Oh does do other things for me so must not moan!!
xx
He gave me a throwaway comment other day about time management but later apologised after i shouted at him.... But we will get there am sure it just men for you!!
He had Luen on fri for 3 hrs whilst i went out at night i came back to a bombsite and they Luen hadnt had briliant night hubby was hoping to chill now he sees what happens in day for me sometim es x
I don't want to berate my hubby as he's lovely but yes, he really doesn't do much to help. The only feed he'll do is the 11pm one - but more often than not i've done it and she's zonked enough then to sleep through. I do all the feeds. Sometimes he'll do the 8pm one when i want to go and have a bath, but that's it.
To be fair to him, he's extremely busy at work. We have our own business and it's a busy one at the best of times so now i'm not there he's having to do double the workload, we have one member of staff but she can only work afternoons so it's tough. We're taking someone else on, but it's just finding someone. So, i don't like to moan at him really. Plus we always said that when we did have children i'd be the traditional Mummy and he works. That's fine by me but sometimes i would like a bit of help. He works 7 days a week too so not asif i get a rest on a weekend. Most Sunday's he takes a few hours off and we'll go out and he does help so we can sorted to go out early enough.
Yep SLOW i've had the "you're at home all day" comment too!! I tend to get to the end of the week then tiredness hits me, that's when i start having a little moan at him. Doesn't help that i've felt so low lately. I sent him an email on Friday saying i just needed a chat, it was an hour before he replied and said he was busy so i then said i was busy too so not to bother. He then put "Doing?" as if i was doing nothing grrr, this aggrevates me.
Yes, i do try and get some time to myself to come online most days but it isn't always easy.
I've spoken to other Mummies and they've said that most men are like this at this stage. When our babies get older they tend to do more as it then becomes more "interesting" for them! Charming! So we get the first year - 2 years then they get the rest hahahaha!!!
Sorry for having a rant, once i started i couldn't stop and looks like we're all feeling the same
xxx 5+3
Dx
Gemma and baby Noah - 7 weeks today!
He knows I work just as hard as him (in fact, he commented the other day that he believes looking after the boys is HARDER than what he does as he has been doing his job for more than 10 years so it comes naturally!)
I definitely agree with Gemstone that some of your blokes need a kick up the backside. J would give anything to be home in the evening to bath and feed the boys. If I wake him at night because both boys need seeing to at the same time, he never complains and will get up and change nappies for me.
Must admit, after reading some of your posts, I do now feel very lucky. lol!
Gemma, Ryan and Alfie (7+2)
Can you imagine what house and babies would be like if we listened to goverments propoasl of sharing mat leave with hubbys!!
I know my house would be so upside down and hubby doesnt like pooey nappies, when he has changed them he uses loads of wipes and Luen ends up putting his foot in it lol, bless my hubby for trying though xxx