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Anyone else really lonely?
Just wondering if anyone else is in my situation...
I moved to a different area when I was 16 and left all my friends behind. Most of them lost contact with me and a few Ive kept in touch with over FB etc. I dont have any friends in my area (my SIL who has a baby 7 weeks younger than Jack lives in the next town but we arent that friendly really) and the days are becoming increasingly lonely I tried going to a toddler group last week but no one spoke to me and I just sat with Jack on the baby mat by myself and wondered about with Sam for an hour and a half - it really shook my confidence as Im really shy as it is. I have 2 more to try this week and Im hoping I can make some friends as Im getting desperate for some company other than the boys and my OH. My mum comes up to see me on Wednesdays and I also go to my dads for tea in the evenings afterwards but the rest of the week I'm alone. Being a stay at home mum is hard enough as it is right now.
Anyone else as lonely as me? x
I moved to a different area when I was 16 and left all my friends behind. Most of them lost contact with me and a few Ive kept in touch with over FB etc. I dont have any friends in my area (my SIL who has a baby 7 weeks younger than Jack lives in the next town but we arent that friendly really) and the days are becoming increasingly lonely I tried going to a toddler group last week but no one spoke to me and I just sat with Jack on the baby mat by myself and wondered about with Sam for an hour and a half - it really shook my confidence as Im really shy as it is. I have 2 more to try this week and Im hoping I can make some friends as Im getting desperate for some company other than the boys and my OH. My mum comes up to see me on Wednesdays and I also go to my dads for tea in the evenings afterwards but the rest of the week I'm alone. Being a stay at home mum is hard enough as it is right now.
Anyone else as lonely as me? x
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I found classes like baby massage, yoga, weaning good because they are smaller groups where you can chat.
Could you also try netmums.
I would say try to get out of the house or you end up feeling worse.
Chin up and remember that you are doing a difficult job.
xx
I have a weekly plan, Henry's at nursery on Weds am and all day thurs so I try and do something on the days he's around like go to baby groups. I'm very lucky that I have a close friend I met through a baby massage class I did with Henry and she goes to the same groups. I find school hols really hard cause they stop all the groups?! Afternoons are the hardest for me, my friend has an older child she has to pick up from school so we can't do arrange anything. Once the weather starts picking up am going to try and get out a bit more, Henry has so much energy!
I do sometimes find baby groups are a bit clicky but if I'm on my own I tend to find someone else on their own its less scary and speak to them. I'm quite shy as well but as I have to do a lot on my own have become a bit more confident - I have nothing to lose. Hope it gets easier xxx
Think I will also take a look on netmums
Sorry for the ramble
xxx
Anyway, I think the suggestion to look on Netmums is a good idea. You can join your local group and either meet up with a group or respond to an individual request to meet up. I agree that some groups seem a bit cliquey but I think it's a good idea to try to sit next to someone who looks like they're on their own too.
Hope things get better for you - I'm sure the baby groups will get easier and you'll make some great friends! xx
I can't help i'm afraid much as the only cure for me was to go bck to work. Am feeling so much better now - just have more energy whic is strange!!Am buzzing now really.
I hope you find something that works for u and start feeling better soon.
As most of my friends are at work I have been spending a lot of time with my parents.......they are in their mid 70's so my street cred is way down there..hahaha
although I am going to miss my DS very very very much I am also looking forward to a bit of adult company again when I find a job !!!!
anyone know of any jobs going in Leicester/Coventry,Lutterworth???????? just checking...
DLAM xxx