Very Poignant Mothers Day
I got a call from my mum this morning saying my grandma died in the night
We knew it would happen soon she's been really ill since christmas but it was still sudden to us because it's not like she deteriorated in the last few days or anything. I feel bad that I haven't cried, i'm very sad obviously but part of me is relieved more than anything. The grandma I knew died at the same time as my grandad 5 years ago. She had dementia which got worse over the last few years and was made even more worse by her anxiety issues so she relied heavily on my mum who was devoting so much of her life to it. Now she isn't suffering anymore and my mum has got her life back - does that sound awful? What i'm finding more upsetting is that i'm having trouble remembering her before the dementia it was just all consuming.
Just wanted to offload, pretty much all my family knows but still didn't want to put it on facebook. No need to reply.
We knew it would happen soon she's been really ill since christmas but it was still sudden to us because it's not like she deteriorated in the last few days or anything. I feel bad that I haven't cried, i'm very sad obviously but part of me is relieved more than anything. The grandma I knew died at the same time as my grandad 5 years ago. She had dementia which got worse over the last few years and was made even more worse by her anxiety issues so she relied heavily on my mum who was devoting so much of her life to it. Now she isn't suffering anymore and my mum has got her life back - does that sound awful? What i'm finding more upsetting is that i'm having trouble remembering her before the dementia it was just all consuming.
Just wanted to offload, pretty much all my family knows but still didn't want to put it on facebook. No need to reply.
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It's always hard when someone goes like this I was a mix of emotions when my nab died as it was upsetting but at the same time a relief as it was what she wanted (the pain to go).
Think of you and your family, big hug.
thinking of you but as you say she got to see Dexter.
try and look at some older photos of when she was well and with your grandad - they will be the memories you want to remember.....
My mum also was looking after my nana at the end and my parents didn't go on holiday for years as they couldn't leave her.....She died 10 years ago in June..... My parents now go on at least 3 holidays a year and I don't blame them....
DLAM xxxx
This is one of my favourite pics of me and her - I think I was 2 or 3.