How do I deal with this?
I'm getting to the end of my tether with my MIL. I think i've mentioned before that she's very overbearing when it comes to Dexter but with the possibility of living with the IL's i'm starting to panic a bit.
Now they are lovely people and before Dexter was born we just pootled along no problem but since then my MIL has been getting unbearable! She steals him pretty much as soon as she sees him, if I do take him she hovers round him; one time he woke up from a nap literally seconds before they walked in our front door so he was a bit dopey and rubbing his eyes so she spent the next 2 hours insisting he was tired despite me repeatedly saying he had just had a nap and cuddling him like a newborn which he doesn't like unless he actually wants to go to sleep. When he did fall asleep again it was because he was actually due for his next nap!
We went to a restaurant and when the waiter asked if we wanted a high chair she said 'oh no he's too small' ok he was but surely thats my call? She also got the hump because she didn't get first cuddle with him the other day well this was my grandmothers wake and my parents wanted a bit of time with him especially as they both work full time and don't actually see him as often as both me and them would like. Later his gothmother (as opposed to godmother - he's not christened lol) had him on her lap and he was getting hungry so was a bit grumpy and she was telling her what to do with him even though I was sitting right there! Again she was insisting he was tired! Obviously there's more but this post is long enough already lol!
I just feel as though she thinks I'm doing it wrong and she just takes over all the time and i'm getting thoroughly fed up of it. Problem is I haven't spoken to DH about it because he thinks its quite sweet and he's quite close to his mum. I can kind of see where she is coming from, most of her grandkids live abroad and the ones that do live locally are now teenagers so it is exciting for her. I'm just not sure what to do about it i'm starting to dread seeing them, i'm using uni work as an excuse for not going when DH takes Dexter to see them.
Got a horrible feeling the replies are going to be 'talk to DH' but wanted to know if anyone has had similar problems?
Thank you ladies!
Now they are lovely people and before Dexter was born we just pootled along no problem but since then my MIL has been getting unbearable! She steals him pretty much as soon as she sees him, if I do take him she hovers round him; one time he woke up from a nap literally seconds before they walked in our front door so he was a bit dopey and rubbing his eyes so she spent the next 2 hours insisting he was tired despite me repeatedly saying he had just had a nap and cuddling him like a newborn which he doesn't like unless he actually wants to go to sleep. When he did fall asleep again it was because he was actually due for his next nap!
We went to a restaurant and when the waiter asked if we wanted a high chair she said 'oh no he's too small' ok he was but surely thats my call? She also got the hump because she didn't get first cuddle with him the other day well this was my grandmothers wake and my parents wanted a bit of time with him especially as they both work full time and don't actually see him as often as both me and them would like. Later his gothmother (as opposed to godmother - he's not christened lol) had him on her lap and he was getting hungry so was a bit grumpy and she was telling her what to do with him even though I was sitting right there! Again she was insisting he was tired! Obviously there's more but this post is long enough already lol!
I just feel as though she thinks I'm doing it wrong and she just takes over all the time and i'm getting thoroughly fed up of it. Problem is I haven't spoken to DH about it because he thinks its quite sweet and he's quite close to his mum. I can kind of see where she is coming from, most of her grandkids live abroad and the ones that do live locally are now teenagers so it is exciting for her. I'm just not sure what to do about it i'm starting to dread seeing them, i'm using uni work as an excuse for not going when DH takes Dexter to see them.
Got a horrible feeling the replies are going to be 'talk to DH' but wanted to know if anyone has had similar problems?
Thank you ladies!
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My mum lives miles away so only see her a few times a year but she would be so involved in a good way and always says im doing a great job as lo is so happy etc.
I have dropped hints to my mil and it does seem to have helped abit. Could you do the same? In a way that isnt rude but also stick up for yourself.
Sorry couldnt b more help
xx
I don't really have any answers but didn't want to read and run - although I do suggest talking to DH about it and/or dropping gentle hints to MIL. I don't know how you react when MIL doe these things but maybe like care bear said just stick up for yourself a bit and don't let her takeover. Easier said than done though I am sure
I hope you get it sorted and that ssomeone else can give you some good advice lol. Keep us updated.
good luck
Good luck xxx