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Why does everyone think they are the perfect mother
Hi
Sorry, i'll warn you in advance this is gonna go on for a bit. I have a 17 month lo who is the best child in the world (not always the case). When she was born she had colic and cried all the time day and night. This really got me down and i ended up on meds for PND. My o/h mother died 4 years ago but he has a sister who is jsut over 40 and has an 11 year old son. When lo was about 8 weeks old i took her over to see my sil as o/h was working. She started having a go at me coz holly still woke up during the night for a bottle and told me just to cut it out and leave her to cry. This then led me leaving her house and going home in tears as i couldnt just leave my baby to cry.
Everytime i saw her she would ask how much lo took in her bottle and when she slept. This went on and still does. I have now taken to saying that she sleeps from 7 til 6:30, (i dont tell her that she still wakes for a bottle sometimes). Even when we go over now (once a week) she still wants to know this stuff.
This is my child. I have had to work hard to get her the way she is. She does not cry now, only when she has a fall. She always gives cuddles and kisses and plays away happily wherever she is. Who is she to tell me how to raise my lo. My o/h agrees with me and just tell her what she wants to hear.
I dont care if she wakes up once a night for a quick bottle why should she. O/h told me that his mum did everything with sils lo.
I'm so sorry about this but i'm jsut so mad. I think i've come a long way with holly just to be told i'm doing things wrong
Sorry, i'll warn you in advance this is gonna go on for a bit. I have a 17 month lo who is the best child in the world (not always the case). When she was born she had colic and cried all the time day and night. This really got me down and i ended up on meds for PND. My o/h mother died 4 years ago but he has a sister who is jsut over 40 and has an 11 year old son. When lo was about 8 weeks old i took her over to see my sil as o/h was working. She started having a go at me coz holly still woke up during the night for a bottle and told me just to cut it out and leave her to cry. This then led me leaving her house and going home in tears as i couldnt just leave my baby to cry.
Everytime i saw her she would ask how much lo took in her bottle and when she slept. This went on and still does. I have now taken to saying that she sleeps from 7 til 6:30, (i dont tell her that she still wakes for a bottle sometimes). Even when we go over now (once a week) she still wants to know this stuff.
This is my child. I have had to work hard to get her the way she is. She does not cry now, only when she has a fall. She always gives cuddles and kisses and plays away happily wherever she is. Who is she to tell me how to raise my lo. My o/h agrees with me and just tell her what she wants to hear.
I dont care if she wakes up once a night for a quick bottle why should she. O/h told me that his mum did everything with sils lo.
I'm so sorry about this but i'm jsut so mad. I think i've come a long way with holly just to be told i'm doing things wrong
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Hope you manage to sort things out.