Anyone suffered with PND before and pregnant again???

Hi Ladies,

As you've probably gathered from my subject line I had PND with my first daughter. She is now almost 8 and it's taken me this long to come to terms with things and feel ready to have another baby. I'm now 16 weeks pregnant and completely over the moon but I've suddenly become petrified of a number of things. Firstly is it likely I'll suffer again? Secondly my first daughter and I weren't able to bond properly because of the troubles we had and is she going to feel completely isolated if I do bond with this child in the way I should have with her? I will obviously do my up most to make her feel included and part of the pregnancy as well as the care once she's born but children are sensitive to the smallest of things.

Our relationship is so much better now and we do bond but in a grown ups way, I had her when I was quite young (18) which I believe made things much more pressurised, my partner at the time walked out on us and he hasn't had any contact with her for over 6 years now and I held down a full-time job from when she was 9mths old until now.

I've been with my current partner for a long time and I could never imagine my life without him, he is 100% my soulmate we are in a very nice situation now in that I can give up work and have all of my time dedicated to the children we have just bought our 4bed house so plenty of room and no pressure on that front and completely different to how things were with my first, but I'm just so worried about the pnd side of things. Have any of you been through similar? How did it turn out for you?

Thanks for taking the time to read this - also posted in the pnd forum

xxx

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  • Hi, I'm in a similar situation. I had PND with my son, who is now nearly 3, and I am 10 weeks pregnant. I have an amazing doctor, which has been a big help. A lot of what triggered my PND, was because of a traumatic birth. This time I have been put at consultant level and have already been put in touch with a midwife at the hospital who specialises in PND.
    I have the same fears that it will come back, but i'm trying to stay positive. At least I know this time that I'm being closely monitored. I also think that I beat it last time and i can again! x
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