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10 months after giving birth, is it still PND

Hi Ladies
dont really know where to start but i've got a beautiful 10 month old boy who i completely adore but for the last 4 months i've been feeling more and more down and well... flat. i sorta feel like i have no emotions exept for the rubbish ones, like wanting to cry at the smallest thing and just completely loosing my temper (not at my son) at my husband if he breathes wrong or the cat if he snuggles up to me. it just feels like i'm simmering and waiting to blow all the time. i've had no end of problems with my work over going back and these feelings started around the same time, but it was also around the time that i went back on the pill.
can it be pnd so late after giving birth? i've always thought that it was something that you got in the first few weeks or so after having lo.
the other thing i've found (please excuse if tmi) is that i've got absolutely no sex drive. can that be a symptom? or is that just a symptom of husband not being helpful?

Misty

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  • Hi, im not sure how long after you can suffer with it but I know how your feeling, my little girl is 7 months and Im feeling quite low, I have some days better than others but generally I feel tearful, really anxious all the time and lack motivation. I have just been to the Dr to change the pill I was taking as I thought it may be that which was making me feel down but now im not so sure. I am feeling quite lonely and isolated and dont really go out very much. Im afraid of going to the Dr again incase they start thinking im unable to cope with being a mum.
  • Hey girls you are not alone , my boy is 11 mths and i feel low sometimes . Not sure if it's cause the time of the month or not . Was upset at work yesterday cause i missed my LO , Most of the time i'm fine , i done the questionaire with the HV and i was low risk of PND . I get stressed easily if he starts mucking about with his food or can't get him to have a nap . I'm by myself most of the time , oh works all day . Family live 10 miles away bloody hassel going out , i can drive but hate it . I 've not made any firends close by with babies .
  • Hi there, sorry to hear that ur feeling down but my baby daughter will b one nxt wk and i was diagnosed wi pd when she was 5months i still fell down now and am on antideppressants still but i was told by my health visitor that you can develope pd over a yr after ur lo is born, my advice is to talk to ur doc or health visitor they will b able to help u.
    sorry 4 rambling on lol
    take care xxxxxxxxxx
    Adele xxx
  • HI I've just been put on these. My baby is 10 months and i haven't had depression for 4 yrs. Been in denial for the last 10 months so hoping these tablets will help me feel better. I've never been described this tablet before.

    I do feel even more tired than usual, knackered but still not sleeping well. I'm hoping it wont last?

    I didn't bond with my baby which was awful, she's all i ever wanted, I thought i would have this rush of love for her when she was born and i didn't image

    What didn't help was having to go back to work full time when she was 14 weeks as husband was made redundant. Plus i'm studyng with the OU in all my free time.

    Feel fed up and low. Its her 1st birthday coming up and all i wish was that it was this time last yr as i was so looking forward to having her. Her 1st birthday coming up is just highlighting what i feel i've missed out on image

    Will be nice to talk to people on here.

    xx
  • Hiya

    Sorry your feeling so blue.

    I had pnd with my son (he's 8 now) i realised when he was 4 months and was diagnosed and put on tablets at 6 months, i was on these for 3 years. I do believe my cicumstances at the time played a very big part in the pnd for me, like going back to work at 6 weeks and my EX being no supportive in anyway. I was put on 3 sets of tablets trial and error and had to see a specialist doc who finally prescribed prozac which helped. I now i'm at risk again so are sh**ting myself as it was the worst experience ever. I imagined things and wanted certain things to happen that were truly awful.

    Anyway if you feel this way, so down etc go and speak to your gp and see what he/she says and take it from there.

    How long have you felt like this?? being honest with yourself? was there a point you remember that triggered it all off??

  • My pnd has lasted for 6 years, I was diagnosed when my son was 3 weeks old he is now 6 (7 later this year),

    I dot want to worry/scare anyone but it takes time to get better and I'm finaly starting to get there

    don't give up xxxx
  • hi all i dont no whats up with me my baby girl is 10m old she is my everything i waited 11years to have her , so i should be happy  ,but im not i dont get 5 min to myself i aint sleeping right and my bf dont help at all ,he as 3 kids from befor me and as them every other weekend ,at mine i only have a 2bedroom house that aint big at all ,when they come i have to take all my girls toy in my bedroom as they brack her stuff ,ii have said to bf bout them but all i get is there babies aswell (one is 4 then 7 then 14 ) he dont take them out so there in all weekend i dont go out any more as he says im not doing thing for his kids  i dont no what to do i cant take this any more even my 12 year old boy go to my mums when they come , help what do i do, there is just to much bad then good

  • Hi Ladies,

    Hope you are all well, I was just wondering what type of help you have all received for PND? I'm not being nosy (well I am) it's just I am a Dance Movement Psychotherapist; due to gain registration in August when I can start practicing independently. I have done alot of work in the field of PND and how to bond with your baby. It isn't so much instructions on how to deal with your child or medication led but more about lived experiences through therapy and a tailor made programme to support mums and their partners with PND (men can get it too!). The course has specific techniques in ways to promote bonding and lasts for 10 weeks. After the 10 weeks we discuss whether further therapy is required or if you will be discharged. Does this sound like something you ladies would be interested in? I am trying to get it commissioned but can only do this if I have support from sufferers of PND.

    Thanks guys,

    Rebecca Holcroft

    Dance Movement Psychotherapist (MA)

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