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Selfish husband and bad news
Hi everyone,how are you all?i have had a bad day and my head feels like its gonna explode.yesterday my oh asked me for my brothers number as my bro asked him to start a company with him anyway oh had just started new job just when lo was born in Oct so he declined.My brother has been working for himself for almost a year now but has just gone through a bad patch and borrowed money from both my parents and my sis not me as he knows i havent got any money lol.Well hubby has been a bit stressed at work lately and today he left for work at 6am usual time but was back by 9am i didnt discover this till lo wanted breakfast and he was asleep on the sofa.i asked him what was going on he said he'd had enough so had walked out of his job and was gonna work with my brother instead! how could he do this we will never cope as have got a morgage new baby cats etc i am more worried as my brother isint very reliable so we will probably lose the house if i cant talk him into going back it was an ok wage enough so i can have the full year off with lo.i feel down enough without this extra worry
and to top off a bad day it got worse my dad(74) has got parkinsons disease and has got much worse in the past few months always falling and having to give up driving well he had a hospital appointment today to see parkinsons specialist my mum went with him and they were told they have done all they can for him cant try upping his meds any more so he is just gonna get worse and worse.my mum said out of earshot of my dad that she sees him giving up now and just going on a downward spiral.i was feeling low before all this but now i feel even worse my head is pounding with the worry and stress.sorry for going on i just needed to rant.
take care
Lin
and to top off a bad day it got worse my dad(74) has got parkinsons disease and has got much worse in the past few months always falling and having to give up driving well he had a hospital appointment today to see parkinsons specialist my mum went with him and they were told they have done all they can for him cant try upping his meds any more so he is just gonna get worse and worse.my mum said out of earshot of my dad that she sees him giving up now and just going on a downward spiral.i was feeling low before all this but now i feel even worse my head is pounding with the worry and stress.sorry for going on i just needed to rant.
take care
Lin
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As for your hubby, i dont know what to say. He is being a stupid git. Sorry for the bluntness but he is. Have you thought about going back to work and leaving your lo with him? could he handle it? I would go balistic if Gary done that on us and put our home at risk. I dont know what to say but you really dont need the extra pressure he is causing you. Have you told him how pissed off you are with him in general? does he understand how you are feeling?
Let me know how today goes, i hope it is a better day than yesterday.
Big hugs to you hun because i think you need them. ((((((0)))))))
my dad yeah he knows how bad he is i dont think he wanted to face up to it for a long time but i think he finally has because he has finally given up driving which is a weight of our shoulders as he scared us.He is very bad now he can hardly walk and when he does he usually has a fall i hate seeing him like this i try to keep him positive by taking lo to see him every day give him something to look forward to.my mum never gets a break im the only one that goes round often usually when the others do thay want something.my mum is thinking of giving up work to look after him as he cant really be left on his own now.
my oh i have told him to have a really good think and be sure as i dont want him to make us lose our house.i cant go to work and leave him with lo as my job does not pay enough and lo goes into meltdown if im gone for more than an hour so thats not an option.men grr
thanks for listening
Lin
Has your mum thought about respite care to give her a week off or even a few days? She should go to her gp and get a social worker assigned to them so maybe she could get a care assistant in to help, even if it was just taking your dad to the shower or bath. I know she probably wont want to but she must think that this is a long term illness and as time goes on she will need the help. Im sorry i cant offer any more words of wisdom to you, i just hope you get a few easy days soon. xxx
What date was Lexie born? i think her and Ellie are almost the same age?!?