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PND
Poppy1410
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Hi. I don't usually post of forums but here goes..
My daughter is 13 weeks old and has suffered from silent reflux since 4 weeks old, she has also been diagnosed with CMPA. She is on omeprazole and amino acid based formula, only for the past week and so far no relief from the symptoms. She has cried pretty much all day every day in pain for the past 2 months. I have been diagnosed PND and have started antidepressants. Feeling pretty isolated as I can't take her anywhere, she even cries in the pram.
Hoping to chat to other mums and hopefully get some tips for coping with pnd x
My daughter is 13 weeks old and has suffered from silent reflux since 4 weeks old, she has also been diagnosed with CMPA. She is on omeprazole and amino acid based formula, only for the past week and so far no relief from the symptoms. She has cried pretty much all day every day in pain for the past 2 months. I have been diagnosed PND and have started antidepressants. Feeling pretty isolated as I can't take her anywhere, she even cries in the pram.
Hoping to chat to other mums and hopefully get some tips for coping with pnd x
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All I would say is you need to be kind to yourself. It is a very lonely time at the moment and I can't imagine being a new mum at the moment. Big hugs.
I take medication for anxiety that developed after my 2nd was born. Just keep talking and there is lots of online support.
Everything will pass eventually xx
I can't offer any advice about PND, but I can offer advice about the reflux side of things. It DOES get better! My lo was awful with reflux, and constipation, we finally changed his milk around 8 weeks and after about a month realised that most of his symptoms had subsided. We found that positioning had a lot to do with, and for sleeping the only positio. He was comfy in was on his tummy. Even now at 22 months he sleeps on his front with his bum sticking up in the air!
I can completely understand the isolation feelings, I felt so isolated and this wasn't in the middle of a pandemic. Online forums will be a great source of info and friendship for you! Made for mums was a life saver for me!
Feel free to pm if you like, I promise you though, it does get easier!!!
I don’t know much about CMPA I’m afraid so I can’t offer much help there, I just hope your daughters symptoms settle down soon, it sounds incredibly tough for both of you xxx
thing and following (honest) mum accounts for tips helped me. I hope things with the reflux start to improve soon but hang in there Mama - you’re doing great! xxx
I remember feeling so low with my little boy because all my friends babies seemed so happy and content in comparison. I would often avoid meeting up with them or would prepare an apology for his grumpiness in advance of meeting them.. it was awful I felt like I was doing something wrong and I hated how unhappy and pained he was. Changing to an anti-reflux formula, paced feeding and talking to our health visitor really helped.
We do have a baby carrier but she doesn't always settle in it so I havent used it for a few weeks. I will try again as feel I could really benefit from getting out in the fresh air occasionally.
@Pe4nut hi. her dad lives with us but is also feeling very stressed and unfortunatly hasn't been able to bond with her yet ( evenings seem to be her worse time with the reflux) he does help and offer me breaks. I am also the same with meeting friends, I get so embarrassed when she cries I tend not to make plans now.
Feeling better for reading all your messages today and will try and take it a day at a time xx
im sorry to hear your having such a terrible time. I don’t have experience with PND but my daughter also had CMPA, it’s a very upsetting experience but it does get better. There are other formulas you can try - we had to persevere with the doctors and tried 3 formulas before anything worked - but Neocate was our golden ticket. My daughter didn’t sleep unless upright & cuddled, would never settle in her pushchair only on me. I know how hard it is, but don’t feel embarrassed meeting friends - just explain her CMPA.
i found little walks/short walks in the baby carrier often helped, a baby swing that she could sit upright in & generally being on my shoulder.
It does get better it doesn’t seem like it now but it does! Your doing fantastic!
if your on Facebook there is a CMPA group with lots of other people who offer support and go through the same things - I found it a safe space to speak. That may help you some more.
xxx
it is hard and you so feel very isolated, but the most important thing to remember is you are not alone!
it is so important that you keep talking, and making this post was a great thing to do, so well done on making that first step!
I know it’s hard with a new baby but try to rest whenever she does, chores and other jobs can wait, they really aren’t important in the grand scheme of things.
Find yourself a good comedy to watch, I found watching something funny would really lift my mood and distract me from how I was feeling.
Eat the foods you love, don’t focus on calories for now, it’s not important right now, just enjoy your food.
You have just had a baby, you deserve to go easy on yourself, you deserve to treat yourself.
Most importantly, do not blame yourself for how you are feeling.
It is NOT your fault and it does NOT make you a bad mother.
The fact you have come here asking for help shows just how much of a great mother you are.
Remember, you won’t feel like this forever, it will get better, you will come through it and there are people that want to help you, please reach out to them.
Doctors, Health Visitors, Friends.
Please reach out to them, and be kind to yourself! xx
What side effects are you having from the antidepressants? Have you checked them out with your GP? x