Where am I going wrong?
Hi. I started potty training my 2 1/2 year old daughter a few days ago and I have been following Gina Ford's Potty Training in One Week book to the letter but we don't seem to be getting anywhere. She seems ready and is very proud to be wearing her "big girl knick-knicks" and she is quite happy to sit on her potty. The trouble is she won't do anything while she's on the potty. On the first day she was on the potty 15 minutes on, 15 minutes off and we had virtually nothing but accidents. From the second day we tried half an hour on, half an hour off in the hope that if she was on the potty for longer we might catch something but again we've had virtually nothing but accidents (we've only managed two wee's and two poo's successfully all week). It seems that no matter how long she's been on the potty about five minutes after she's come off she has an accident and it really upsets her. It's almost as though she's holding it in while she's on there. Whenever she sits on the potty she gets a small star sticker, if she does a wee she gets a small smiley face sticker and if she does a poo she gets a big smiley face sticker. She seems more than happy to get stickers as rewards and I would rather only use bribary by chocolate as an absolute last resort. When she's on her potty we play games, read and sing nursery rhymes so she doesn't get bored. When she has an accident I tell her it's nothing to worry about, give her lots of hugs and kisses, clean her up and she's back to her usual cheeky self within a couple of minutes. She wears proper knickers all the time with the exception of pull ups during her afternoon nap and at night. Today we did have a small breakthrough whereby she has started asking to use the potty but even then she still doesn't do anything while she's on it. How can we break this cycle? Almost everyone I've spoken to has said how easy it is and how their children only took about a week. I'm sure I must be doing something wrong but I just don't know what and I'm sure it's something blindingly obvious to an expert but I just can't see it. I really want to get her potty trained now because I'm 3 1/2 months pregnant with my 2nd one and I don't want to be leaving it until the baby's born because my lo will have enough changes to cope with. I'm feel that if we carry on like this she'll still be in nappies when she's taking her GCSE's!!! I don't really have anyone I can talk to and I feel that at my age (33) I'm expected to know how to do it and get it right first time.