weak bladder or just plain lazy!!??

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• fooxoo

  Jan 14, 2010 8:09AM

  THough this sounds a bit cruel, I d leave him in the wet pants for a bit .... maybe the uncomfortable cold feeling will kickstart his brain/body to go try the potty .... I ve heard a lot of mums say that the wet pants and even wet bed for a bit help with potty training ...
  
  Have not yet experienced the joy myself, Hugo is just 16 months ... I am waiting till summer time to do it! :P I think then I am gonna go just cold turkey on nappies ... none at all day or night, and stock up with lots of mattress covers ... :P (so not looking forward to it ...)

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• claire-abelle

  Jan 14, 2010 8:25AM

  yeah I did try that last night hoping he's hate the feeling, but he just climbed on the couch and started watching telly!! and it didn't bother him!! Typical bloke!!!
  
  I'm certainly not brave enough to do the cold turkey at night!! I thought it was quite a while after getting then dry in the day before they'd be dry at night........

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• grudie

  Jan 14, 2010 8:48AM

  Lennon is 3 in june and im this week trying to tackle the potty..so far no good lol
  
  ive just let him run around in the buff..just the bottom and have started to try the pants thing.not 1 in the potty yet but i just keep putting in on there when he has wee'd and tell him pee pee goes in there
  
  sorry not much help but if you find something that works could you let me no lol i was hoping it wasnt going to be as much hard work....teach me to hope lol

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• claire-abelle

  Jan 14, 2010 8:58AM

  yeah I have to say Lara, he does go one his potty more when he's naked, so perhaps the pants are confusing him!!
  
  He's been at nursery today tho, and they are supposed to be carrying on the training, and he can't really walk around nursery in the buff!! we'll see how its got on at 4pm!!!

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• Sandfamily

  Jan 14, 2010 9:09AM

  I've heard that it's very difficult to potty train in the winter as it's so cold so maybe wait a bit and try again in the spring time once it starts getting a bit warmer? if you don't take the potty away completely, he might start asking for it soon?
  
  

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• EnglebertW_nkface

  Jan 14, 2010 9:23AM

  I would say that if he's weeing like that he's just not ready. Little babies tend to wee as soon as there is anything in their bladder, they don't have any control at all so they can't 'save it up'. One of the signs that they are ready for potty training is that instead of doing these little wees all the time they start to save it up and do a big wee much less frequently. Millie didn't potty train till she was 26mths, and boys are normally later than girls, but because she was completely ready it only took a couple of days. It's worth bearing in mind as well that most children aren't dry at night untill quite a long time after they are dry in the day (again, especially boys!) and it's quite common for them still not to be completely dry at 4.
  
  Good luck hun!!!
  xx

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• claire-abelle

  Jan 14, 2010 9:39AM

  that was what was worrying me Bedhead, I thought they gained bladder control by 18months old and he's now 27months
  
  should I be worried if he doesn't have bladder control by now??

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• JemmaPuddleduck

  Jan 14, 2010 10:09AM

  I read bladder control didn't come till 20-24 months or even later. I wouldn't worry if he's not got it, it's a muscle that he has to learn to use. So maybe Shea's not ready yet and you could try again in a couple of months. But that's just my opinion and I've not been these yet xx

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• EnglebertW_nkface

  Jan 14, 2010 11:27AM

  I thought that 18 months was the youngest that they gained bladder control. Millie was certainly no where near by 18 months.
  xx

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• LadyTottington Regular

  Jan 14, 2010 3:27PM

  Hi Claire a Belle, I have heard that girls are better than boys when it comes to bladder control (we're better at most things lol!) and judging by stories of friends etc, this would seem to be true.
  
  I can tell you that my boys were not ready at 27mths, although I imagine if I has persisted and been prepared to clean up lots and lots of accidents, I would have succeeded lol! I gave up in the end, and both boys were more like 2.5 - 3yrs before they were completely dry in the day.
  
  Ds1 needed night nappies till he was 5 (he has always drank a lot in the day) and in the end we had to teach him to wake himself up in the night and trot along to the toilet himself. Ds2 however, as soon as he was dry in the day, he was dry at night (a lot easier lol).
  
  You will get there in the end if you persist, but there's nothing wrong with leaving it a couple of months until he's a bit older. Personally, I have found potty training the biggest headache of parenting!
  
  Mx
  
  
  

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• gsmummy55

  Jan 14, 2010 6:15PM

  I totally agree with bedhead, it doesn't sound like he's really ready, & there's nothing wrong with that at all!!! It's better to start later when he really wants to be dry rather than if he's not bothered about the potty yet. It also takes longer for lo's to control their bladder then it does to control their bowels.
  In my birth 2 five book it says there are 3 stages of being ready to train:
  1) They know when they have pooed & may tell you
  2) They know when they are weeing & may tell you they're doing it
  3) They know in advance when they need a wee & tell you they need one
  And apparently it's better to start when they are nearer to stage 3. Gabe is only on stage 1,sometimes 2, he's 20 months.
  Im also with Lara about training in summer, january's quite a bad time to start also as bad for drying wet pants and clothes! Personally I'd get the nappies or pull ups back out and wait till summer. However leave the potty around in case he decides to give it a go Either way don't feel bad about it xxxxx

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