A musing on home births and MLUs....
some of the recent threads have prompted me to ask this now.
I had a MLU birth first time round. no complications. 'perfect'
Second was hospital/epidural/ventouse/worried about twin one's heartrate but all ok in the end.
As a result I would now never consider a home birth or MLU. I wanted a HB with my first and H said he would be really uncomfortable with it, I needed his support obviously so MLU was the compromise. Now I completely get where he is coming from - why would you want to be 20mins away from the medical facilities if you needed them? why would you delay getting you or your baby the necessary treatment, potentially putting both our lives at risk in the quest for the 'perfect' birth?
it strikes me as more and more strange - especially on here with all the threads about SIDS guidelines/RF carseats and how people are so militant about it (not saying that its wrong, just an observation) yet a lot are happy to go through childbirth an ambulance ride away from help.
if I am lucky enough to have another I would want to be at the hospital so everything was on hand should I/the baby need it, even though I haven't had a really bad experience/need of NICU/SCBU/needed a section etc. I now agree with my H, why wouldn't you want to be as close as possible to help in the event the worst happens.
just interested in people's rationale behind this. I know first time round I seemed to be in a blissful bubble that if I willed it to go how I wanted it would all be fine (luckily for me, it was) but I realise in hindsight how shortsighted i'd been.
Would love to hear people's thoughts.