Miscarriage - any advice?
I'm not sure if baby talk is the correct place to post this but I am hoping someone can help me with some advice if anyone has been through anything similar. Two weeks ago (i would have been 11 weeks) I started getting bad cramps and some bleeding so my husband took me to A&E who were absolutely no help - we saw a doctor who said that no-one would see me that night because I was only 11 weeks and if I was miscarrying we would just have to go home and wait it out. I was booked for an 'emergency' scan on the Wednesday. We went home and waited, the bleeding got a little heavier but nothing very bad and we were hopeful that everything was fine. When we had the scan, the ultrasound showed nothing but the sac so I had to have the IV scan which showed a little embryo, which they dated as 6 weeks 4 days, with no heartbeat. This was heartbreaking as we had paid to have an early scan 3 weeks earlier and we had seen the heartbeat We were told to go home and come back the following week for a scan to see what was happening but, as there was no heartbeat and I was bleeding, it was likely I was miscarrying. The bleeding got heavier and was the heaviest on the Friday; I thought that was it as the bleeding then slowed down and had almost stopped by the Wednesday when we went back for the repeat scan. The scan showed that the embryo had still not come out - I found this very distressing as I had hoped that the scan would have shown everything had passed and I could try and start coming to terms with losing the baby. I was them told that I had two options: to go home and wait it out as it may pass naturally or to have a medically managed miscarriage (the embryo was too small for surgical). i went back to the Gynae Unit the next day to start the medically managed option, taking Mifepristone, and was to return on the Saturday to complete part 2. in the meantime, I started to bleed a little and the cramping came back.
Saturday was horrific; I had two doses of the pessaries and the pain and bleeding was horrendous. The nurses were brilliant and looked after me all day, and my husband was also amazing. Although I passed lots of blood and clots, apparently there was no 'product' in it (I hate typing this word as it is not product, it was my baby and to reduce her to a medical term makes me feel even more sad). At one point, a piece of clot got stuck in the neck of my cervix which was absolute agony and they had to pull it out We were sent home that night with a scan booked for the following Sunday (we had to ask for this as procedure is usually to send you home and tell you to do a pregnancy test in 3 weeks - this seems a bit barbaric to me...). I had to go back on Sunday night as the pain was excruciating again - another piece of clot had got stuck so it needed to be removed, and I was given pethidine and kept in as my blood pressure was very low.
I saw the consultant/registrar on Monday morning and he made me feel like the biggest time waster ever - he hadn't read my notes properly so I was telling him what had happened. He told me to go home and wait it out, as it was likely I had passed the 'product' already. I told him all trays had been checked on Saturday while I was on the ward and nothing had passed, and my bleeding had slowed down completely since leaving. He pretty much ignored what I said and told me I had probably passed it, and to wait for the scan on Sunday. I asked what would happen if the scan showed the embryo was still present; he said I would have to have surgical management I had been told previously I could not have this).
So now I am at home, still bleeding on and off, still cramping on and off, feeling like ***, crying