Advice needed fom you ladies!

I have a little dilemma. I haven't told my oldest friend I am having a baby and am not sure what to do! I haven't heard from her since September last year. I've texted a few times but got no reply and I've sent xmas card and birthday card and still no reply. We last saw each other when we went out for lunch last August. To my knowledge we haven't fallen out and I can't think of anything else I could have done! I don't want to not say anything and bump into her in town come July while pushing a pram! Might be a little awkward but equallyI don't want to text out of the blue and say hello I'm 6 months pregnant. She was my bridesmaid at my wedding and we used to be really close, but I sometimes feel that my life changed when I got married and got a house etc. She still lives at home, goes out on the pull and buys whatever bags/shoes/clothes she wants without a care! I don't know if she felt that I was getting settled and she wasn't. Once we left uni I knew what I wanted to do but she didn't and has drifted from job to job. Anyway my mum thinks I should get in touch but hubby is undecided. He agrees with me it's odd we haven't heard from her and that she hasn't replied to any texts etc yet he's worried that if we just bump into her it will be worse. I'm so unsure what to do. I mean I don't think I would be pleased if I hadn't been told but then I hate the thought of just texting out of the blue. Argh!!!!!

Any advice?

Louise.

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  • I think you've done more than enough to try and contact her personally. I'd try maybe one more time out of courtesy to tell her that you have tried to contact her numerous times but haven't heard back from her.

    If you do bump into her in town with bump/baby then I wouldn't be in the least bit embarrassed - I'd ask her where on earth she's been and how come she lost contact!

    Like you say, it could be a case of her living a completely different life from you and just feeling left behind, but this is no excuse for just ignoring you. You've got more patience than me!!!!

    Karenxx
    28wks
  • Thanks. I feel a bit guilty for not saying anything but I do feel a bit miffed she hasn't bothered with me when I've tried with her. If I'd done something I could understand it! If I bump into her I'll do as you suggest, thanks again. I feel better for getting it off my chest!
    xxx
  • Hi if she is a friend as close as you say u are then i would just give her a call and just say hey how you doing blah blah blah i have friends like this we can go months and months without speaking but as were really close we can just call one another out of the blue and its like we only spoke an hour ago, it is frustrating when friends dont reply to txts etc but as you said u have been concentrating on your marriage being pregnant etc she may have a new job or boyfriend etc and does mean to get in touch but just keeps missing the chance if u know what i mean i do go through this alot but this decision is entirely up to u if it were me i would give her a ring and if no answer then leave a voicemail just asking how she is and its been along time would be nice to catch up etc then if she still doesnt get in touch then u can never feel bad because you have more than tried with her good luck Sophie 34+5 xx
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  • Hi if she is a friend as close as you say u are then i would just give her a call and just say hey how you doing blah blah blah i have friends like this we can go months and months without speaking but as were really close we can just call one another out of the blue and its like we only spoke an hour ago, it is frustrating when friends dont reply to txts etc but as you said u have been concentrating on your marriage being pregnant etc she may have a new job or boyfriend etc and does mean to get in touch but just keeps missing the chance if u know what i mean i do go through this alot but this decision is entirely up to u if it were me i would give her a ring and if no answer then leave a voicemail just asking how she is and its been along time would be nice to catch up etc then if she still doesnt get in touch then u can never feel bad because you have more than tried with her good luck Sophie 34+5 xx
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  • Hi if she is a friend as close as you say u are then i would just give her a call and just say hey how you doing blah blah blah i have friends like this we can go months and months without speaking but as were really close we can just call one another out of the blue and its like we only spoke an hour ago, it is frustrating when friends dont reply to txts etc but as you said u have been concentrating on your marriage being pregnant etc she may have a new job or boyfriend etc and does mean to get in touch but just keeps missing the chance if u know what i mean i do go through this alot but this decision is entirely up to u if it were me i would give her a ring and if no answer then leave a voicemail just asking how she is and its been along time would be nice to catch up etc then if she still doesnt get in touch then u can never feel bad because you have more than tried with her good luck Sophie 34+5 xx
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  • I'll give it a try once more and see what happens. Will let you know how it goes...
    xxx
  • okey dokey good luck sorry i posted so many times didnt realise i had done that lol x
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