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Hi Girls,
I was just wondering how regularly people are seeing their mw's. I only ask because im 26wks and have only seen a mw once and that was at my booking in back in november. Iv not had my tummy measured, iv not heard babies heart beat and iv not bin checked over at all. My scans were done by sonographers and my bloods were taken by nurses, so there could be anything wrong for all the mw's know. The worse thing is im not even supposed to see my mw until im 28wks but this seems like a huge amount of time the last time I saw a mw (20wk). Im feeling abit like im on my own and that im not building up a relationship with any mw like mums-to-be are supposed to. Anyone else having this problem? Kerry xxx
I was just wondering how regularly people are seeing their mw's. I only ask because im 26wks and have only seen a mw once and that was at my booking in back in november. Iv not had my tummy measured, iv not heard babies heart beat and iv not bin checked over at all. My scans were done by sonographers and my bloods were taken by nurses, so there could be anything wrong for all the mw's know. The worse thing is im not even supposed to see my mw until im 28wks but this seems like a huge amount of time the last time I saw a mw (20wk). Im feeling abit like im on my own and that im not building up a relationship with any mw like mums-to-be are supposed to. Anyone else having this problem? Kerry xxx
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Tammi xxx
I have a similar situation - I am seeing my midwife on Friday for the first time since my booking in appointment - I have a lot of questions! We have not heard the heartbeat either. My scans were done by sonographers and my 16 week check was with my GP and he did an ultrasound instead of checking for heartbeat. But this is just how my surgery work it so the pressure is kept of the midwives. Saying that I can always make an appointment to see one if I need to - if you are worried could you not make an appointment?
Lianne (24+3)
-25 Weeks (if first baby) OR 28 Weeks (if second baby)
- and then 31 Weeks (if first baby) OR 34 Weeks (if second baby)
- then 36 Weeks
- then 38 Weeks
- then 40 Weeks
- then every seven days until u have the baby
Because this is my second baby i will only see mw at 28wks, 34wks, 36wks, 38wks and 40wks. Wat does it matter if its ur second baby each pregnancy is different. Kerry xxx
I see her again on the 1st when I will be 2 days off being 21 weeks.
AND
the last 2 days I ahve had blood in my wee, and cramps. I rang my EPU and they just said "oh sounds like a wee infection, go to your doctor"
I have seen my m/w 3 times.
first booking
when she come to house to complete forms
downs screening (whcih is a choice thing)
25 wks and now im seeing her again at 28 wks.
i dont really mind cos i dont like her anyway - lol. when baby is born its going to be hospital midwifes anyway and they can change from one day to the next, depending on shift rota etc (or so im told).
i wouldn't worry if anything was wrong you body would tell you in one way or another, but if you are just ring him and make an appointment. this is my first and if i ever get a bit worried about anything just tell myself women have been doing this for years so it can be that hard - but thats just me, (optamistic and very easy going about the whole thing) - i know for some that is easier said that done.
Kerry xx
All 3 of my pregnancies have been different and they already have concerns for this one coming early.
I had my booking in at 13 weeks, then consultant at 16 got signed off from then, had next midwive appointment at 19 weeks now I will see her again next friday when I will be 25 weeks.
I do think that they should have nationwide standards and every maternity unit and midwive department run the same with the same guidelines to when you are seen. I have noticed how each area is completely different. (sorry for rant)
xxxx
All 3 of my pregnancies have been different and they already have concerns for this one coming early.
I had my booking in at 13 weeks, then consultant at 16 got signed off from then, had next midwive appointment at 19 weeks now I will see her again next friday when I will be 25 weeks.
I do think that they should have nationwide standards and every maternity unit and midwive department run the same with the same guidelines to when you are seen. I have noticed how each area is completely different. (sorry for rant)
xxxx
think this is what they call they postcode lottery!
10 weeks
16 weeks
20 weeks
25 weeks
28 weeks
31 weeks
34 weeks
36
38
40
etc...and then every week if u go overdue and be induced at 40+13 at the latest.
It seems to be about the same as mine tbh except I have had more appointments early on? I don't know why you haven't, as you say every pregnancy is different and being a 2nd timer has nothing to do it. You might have been healthy first time round but not necessarily second! Sorry don't mean to worry you Kerry, I am sure everything is fine but you know what I mean.
I must admit I expected to be seeing mw every week now, rather than every 2, but I dont mind at all. xxxx
I've just posted about this in 'my baby is due in June 08' forum!
This is my first baby and I had my first appointment about 10/11 weeks and my next appointment is at 28 weeks! I had three blood tests on the first appointment and have had two scans and one appointment with a consultant because of a pre-existing back condition.
The other ladies who kindly replied to my post said this was a long gap and i've just found out that for first time mums the appointment system should be 16, 18-20, 25, 28, 31, 34, 36, 38, 40 and also at 41 weeks. In essence, I've missed out on three appointments.
For second time mums the appointment system should be , 18-20, 28, 34, 36, 38 and 41 weeks!
You don't happen to live in the North East do you?
I don't know what to do about it because I don't want to seem pushy and feel a bit vulnerable to be honest. ?