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12 week scan - did anyone go alone?
I know this sounds a bit sad, but my DH is struggling to get the time off work to come with me, and I don't have any family where I live, and haven't told my friends I'm pregnant. So, I might be attending my scan alone. The hospital aren't being very helpful about letting me change times or dates, sadly.
Has anyone been alone for theirs? I'm not relishing it, to be honest. I can't think what I'd do if it was bad news, and I would so love my husband to see the baby with me if everything is okay.
But has anyone been alone? Was it all right? Or I am mad even considering it?
Has anyone been alone for theirs? I'm not relishing it, to be honest. I can't think what I'd do if it was bad news, and I would so love my husband to see the baby with me if everything is okay.
But has anyone been alone? Was it all right? Or I am mad even considering it?
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But if DH cant get the time off that isnt your fault, and there will be more scans in the future he can go to.
Bless you Flush, I feel so sad for you being in this situation.
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Mrs W 13+6
Could you aford to go privet with your hubby before your hospital scan date, then your hubby will be there the first time, youll know everything is alright, then you can do the hospital one on your own with the knowledge that all is well and your only going for you medical records to get filled out as they need to be done at the hospital scans not the privet ones x
Hope things work out for you.
Garfield
38+3
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Its tricky. He's going to sort out a guest speaker, I think, so he can come. If not, the suggestion about going private is a great one, thank you.
I got all teary thinking about it, and so he's going to do everything he can to be there. I just hate the thought of going alone, and am about five hundred miles away from my parents so its not feasible for them to come. I'm just not ready to tell the friends I have living near me about being pregnant yet, and really I only want OH there. It just feels so important.
I should pull myself together - he's doing his best, and I know he'll sort it out if it is in any way possible.
I'm so sorry that your having these problems with your OH's work. Of course hospital doesn't help not being able to reschedual!! :evil:
I think that if your OH cannot get there the a private scan may be your best option for you to share the experience-some do good deals.. especially if you only go for the 2d.
I wanted reassure you though that going on your own is ok, It's a long story but at 17 I got pregnant with my 1st child and didn't actually have a scan until around 20 weeks. I had just been told I was pregnant and I was alone getting the bus to the hospital.
I arrived and had the scan on my own. Due to the circumstances I was very upset however seeing the baby on the screen it didn't matter that I was alone. I just enjoyed seeing my baby.
I hope you can get this sorted so your oh can join you!
Lydia xx
I think it is all going to be all right. My lovely husband has now promised he will be there and will find a way. Even if he has to pay someone to cover that lecture for him, he'll do it.
I'm so relieved!
He's just not that bothered about seeing it on the screen and I can sort of see why. From experience he knows it'll be here soon enough for all to see (and hear!) For us its more of a medical procedure to check things are all ok so he's happy to see the photos after they've done all of the important stuff. Plus, i was able to wind him up about the sex of our third baby cos i found out and he didnt want to know!
It is a shame for your first baby but don't feel bad if you have to go alone. I'm sure the sonographer will make it a good experience for you either way. xx
Of course, you always get another chance at the 20 week scan but it's not the same as seeing it for the first time. I think my hubby has sometimes struggled to feel involved and needed during my pregnancy and I can imagine that not seeing the bean at the scan would have made this worse for him.
31+2
Wouldn't have known what to say otherwise!!! (sorry!)
It'll be an amazing experience and your hubby will be so so happy that he sorted things out to be with you
xxx
P.S. If the guest speaker doesn't turn out, tell him to secretly give his students a free period!! LOL
I'm so relieved that he's said he'll come. I don't think I'd made it clear to him how desperate I was to have him there. And he didn't realise he'd actually see the baby (although now I wonder exactly what he thought the scan would show...?) so didn't think it mattered that much.
Phew all sorted. And I'll tell him if all else fails, he can play truant.
Take care, and if you ever need a chat about the horrors of university bureaucracy, just drop me an e-mail!
I think what frustrates him (and me) is that for probably 90% of the time, he can come and go as he pleases, within reason. But some things are set in stone, and can't be moved! He's the course leader for his course, and the only lecturer, so he finds it hard to get cover. And it was just typical that one of the immovable things is the same day as the scan!
Thank you for the offer emailing to moan - I might well take you up on that! And please feel free to email me too.
When are you due?
I'm due on 2nd March - right in the middle of lectures. My husband is very pleased because he is planning on taking his full allowance of paternity leave and wants to take full advantage! How about you?