I hate my midwife..what can I do?
I had an appointment with my midwife today and it was awful. This is going to be a bit of a long story but here goes...
My sister moved to spain with a friend of hers called sarah about 5 years ago. Sarah soon settled in and got a bf but my sister didnt, do after 6 months she came home and sarah was really peed off with her because she needed my sisters wage for the flat but sister was lonely and homesick and left sarah enough money for the next 2 months rent (courtesy of our dad!) so shouldnt really have been a problem, but when sister got home sarahs mum was ringing my mum dad and everyone going beserk because sister had come home and my dad had to give her a load of money etc
Anyhoo..sarah's mum is my midwife and she HATES me. She is so bloody cold and horrible to me. I went in today and was in agony with the SPD so she said she'll refer me for physio but doesnt think it will make any different and says I need a back brace. She then got me up on the bed and started poking around my bump, really roughly, and then pronounced I was 3 weeks ahead which I know I'm not, I've had 3 scans and all of them have said my dates are correct. so she said well in that case your having a very big baby..ok fine so will she induce me on my due date and she said no its not a medical reason and then went on about how I'm definatly going to go overdue as my first was so late and the labour is going to be incredibly difficult and painful for me because of the SPD, a big baby plus I'm only 5ft 2 so my pelvis is naturally smaller anyway. So I was a bit downhearted to say the least. She then started on about movement and was I feeling 10 a day as I should be by now and I said no I wasnt and in fact I was feeling a bit down because I was missing out on it and she told me that it was stupid I felt like that and I was being another irrational hormonal woman and I should just shut up and get on with it. She then took my bp which was high and tested my urine which had +protein in it and said oh well I'll check it in 4 weeks. On the whole, it was a really horrible appointment and I want to change the midwife because I feel that she's letting personal issues get in the way of her care for me, but what can I do? Do I have the right to change my midwife and if I cant will they tell her I complained about her?
sorry for the long post.