Anyone else have a baby, or gonna have, baby in 1 bed flat ?
Hi, I'm 22+5 due in Sept with my first baby. We live in a 3rd floor one bed flat. We've been trying to sell for the last couple of months so that we can have another bedroom for the baby. But the way the housing and mortgage market is I'm starting to worry that we won't sell and we'll have to manage in our one bed flat.
Has anyone else done this or is planning on doing this ?
I'm worried that I'll never be able to get up and down 3 flights of stairs with the baby and pram, making me a bit of a prisoner unless hubby is there to help etc (maybe prisoner is a bit melodramatic but that's how I'm feeling just now ! ) I know for 1st few months baby will be in with us anyway but what then ?
I'm probably getting carried away with myself but I'm worried that trying to manage in the little 1 bed flat flat is going to get me down and I'm already worrying about post natal depression.
Any hints and tips would be great as I'm starting to really stress about it.
Suz x
Has anyone else done this or is planning on doing this ?
I'm worried that I'll never be able to get up and down 3 flights of stairs with the baby and pram, making me a bit of a prisoner unless hubby is there to help etc (maybe prisoner is a bit melodramatic but that's how I'm feeling just now ! ) I know for 1st few months baby will be in with us anyway but what then ?
I'm probably getting carried away with myself but I'm worried that trying to manage in the little 1 bed flat flat is going to get me down and I'm already worrying about post natal depression.
Any hints and tips would be great as I'm starting to really stress about it.
Suz x
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lo cot is right next to my side of the bed so if lo stirs in the night I am right there, we will look for somewhere new to live closer to the end of this year.
Caz
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If it doesn't sell by the time the baby's born, it won't be as bad as you think. You'll just adapt to it. If you;ve got a travel system and you want to go out, you could get the baby dressed and strapped into the car seat and leave him/her inside the flat (with the door locked) while you take the pushchair down. then collect the baby and car seat and attach the seat onto the pushchair.
I know it's not ideal, but try no to panic about it. Think positively and something will happen soon!! Fingers x for you!
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Having said that his sister is in process of moving into her own home so we'll have an extra bedroom for storage.
And so far we are coping really well and its not that bad at all, space is an issue but the only one we've had as yet. I cope on my own with lo (oh is useless lol) but its great to know I have loads of support around if I need it.
I also know a couple who have a 6 month old in a 1 bed flat and they seem to be OK!
We have considered moving but the market is just so unstable at the moment we dont think it would be a wise move. We went and viewed a 4 bed house on Saturday and it would mean having to mortgage another ??70k. This works out an extra ??500pcm. This would be fine if i was staying full time but as im going part time once baby is here we would be on the breadline each month and i really dont think the added stress will do us any good.
Anyone else got issues with space and step kids and if so how has it all worked out?x
I dont want to have to move as we live in a lovely little wooden bungalow, it's in the midle of nowhere with loads of outside spce but we cant get planning to add an extra room and its no bigger than a staic caravan really, we'll have to find somwhere else before we can have baby number 2.
we have had it up for sale for 6 weeks and have only had 1 person to look round it so i can sympathise with you on that one!!! everything is just going so slow. hope things work out for you x x x
i can symphathise with you, im due in october and at the moment in a first floor tiny 1 bed flat......bathroom only has shower...... no bath and no room for storing pram,cot etc......oh and i are looking at other flats to rent pref 2 beds but so far not having much joy so i know how your feeling. im sure things will work themselves out for you and for me and everyone else in the same boat. hope all works out hun take care x;\)
We're planning on keeping the baby in our room for the first 6 months-year, then letting it have our room and moving us into the living room. Not quite as crazy as it sounds, as our living room is huuuuuge, so it shouldn't be too much of a deal to put up a screen or something and keep the bedroom bit separate from the living room bit, and there's plenty of room for everything.
So not brilliantly ideal, but I do like how close it feels we're going to be, as opposed to a nursery on the other side of the house or something.
I figured we will buy a travel system and I will keep the buggy part in my car boot and will only bring the baby seat in the flat. Everything will need to be on the small side and suitable for small spaces.
Good luck! I'm sure you'll make it work. x x x
Just to say you could also use a baby sling as that might just be easier for going up and down 3 flights of stairs leaving both hands free. Am not sure where you live but if you are in walking distance of most of your shops etc then it would be quite easy for you to get out and about this way.
Just dont get the mothercare 3 in 1 sling as I have it and I think it is crap!
C.xxx
the housing market is such a bummer isn't it - they should just dish out free family size houses to nice pregnant ladies
ok i'll be serious now! as terrifying as the thought is, i'm sure you will manage, and in a way if you can make yourself accept that you MIGHT be ok in the 1 bed it makes looking for a new place wasier, cos you're not in such a desperate emotional state, if that makes sense??
regarding pushchair on stairs - yup that could be tricky. i'd say make sure you get a light, easy to fold, small one (the bebeconfort streety looks pretty good and is good value). some maclaren's also have an attached carry strap so you can put it on your shoulder.
or as carolyn says slings are brilliant. i have a freedom sling and i love it, it spreads the weight really well and lo always looks cosy and falls asleep in it, and it's still cosy now he's a quite big 3 mth old. obv it might not be ideal for long shopping trips round town, but you could always keep it in the basket on your buggy, take it out and pop lo in and fold buggy to go up the stairs??
hope it all works out for you hun xxx
I know we'll be fine I had just hoped to move before baby arrives. Still got 3 months so fingers crossed but I'm already de-cluttering cupboards etc so we have as much room as possible for baby stuff.
Thanks, starting to think as possitively as I can about it. S xx