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Hello, I've joined the forum as I don't feel I can talk to the people around me about how I am feeling and what I am going through.
So 2weeks ago I found out I was pregnant. I'm 40 years old and this is my first. I have been signed off for those last two weeks as I have been experiencing stomach pains and not being able to eat properly (not sick feeling, it just hurts when I do).
I had an early scan last Friday and they say everything is all good and where it should be but couldn't tell me why I have been in pain. I've had good days and bad days with it for the last two weeks. Friday was a good day and I was due to be back in work today so I decided to pop in and talk to my office person Friday afternoon.
Over the weekend the pains were really bad, I was curled up crying. When my doctor rang me today to see how I was doing I told her what had been going on and she decided to extend my sick note for another week. I spoke to the lady in the office again and she wasn't very happy about me being signed off again.
I know that I shouldn't worry about it but add in the fact that the doctor is taking me off my high strength antidepressants aswell I am a complete mess and didn't know who to talk to. I keep thinking that there's something wrong with me for not being able to cope with this pain and don't know what to do for the best. Has anyone else been in this position that can offer words of advice?


  • Hello, 

    Ah congratulations on the pregnancy 💖 

    It is such a shame that you are having a hard time with it so far, it shouldn't be like that :( 

    That is good that everything is in the right place so they have ruled out an ectopic. I wonder why you're having so much stomach pain though. I can't really remember having a lot of pain if I was honest. Can they Dr do anything else for you? Is there anything they can give you? It's great that they are supporting with the work side though, but that is awful the person at work is not being supportive! Shame on them. I can understand why you will be feeling upset about it and its so frustrating because that is not going to be helping you at all. 

    I can't really offer much advice :/ I just wanted to reply and say I'm really sad that you're having a hard time of it. I would definitely go back to the Dr again though if the pains carry on. 

    Take really good care, try to relax as much as you can. Keep us updated x
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